How You can Access the Bliss of Tantric Practice

I’m on a mission in India to connect with the Tantric tradition of this country. Tantra means “weave” – and it refers to the practice of integrating – or weaving together – transcendent realization with life in the body on earth. Tantric masters over the ages have paid much attention to the way consciousness moves in our sexuality, and elaborate practices have been developed to access the spiritual essence of our sexuality – both in solo and couple’s practice.

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Teaching Women to Weave Wings

On my VisionQuest many years ago, I had a vision in which an eagle carried me on its back up a high cliff to the entrance of a cave. There was a doormat at the entrance of the cave, and inside lived an old hag. The eagle told me that she would show me how I could fly. I asked the hag and to my surprise, she gave me the doormat and told me that I could fly with it. Before I knew it, the doormat had become my wings and I was flying high up into other dimensions with the eagle.

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Making Love with Liquid Bodies

We live in a world that is massively driven and full of hard edges. When our daily lives are a constant push for achievement, our sexual experience will take the same tone. We’ll be hunting orgasm and fast reward – while at the same time feeling disconnected from a true sense of sexual flow. The reason is that driven sex is fired by dopamine – the neuropeptide that provides a quick feel-good sensation when we enter into the hunt. But the problem with dopamine is that “there ain’t no satisfaction” – any sexual experience that involved too much frenetic activity to reach orgasm will soon after bring a dump in our neurochemistry as the dopamine levels drop – which means we’ll have to get back on to the sexual treadmill. Or we might find ourselves losing interest in sex entirely.

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Debunking the Myth of Sex

Whenever I teach an in-person retreat or workshop, I find myself at some point suggesting to the participants to give up sex as they knew it. Why? Because most of the ideas we have in our heads about sex are myths that cause more pain and frustration than adding any real pleasure and joy in our lives. Here are some of the myths about sex:

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Reclaim Your Virginity

Would you love to reclaim your virginity?

In this article, I’d like to explore with you what the essence of the sexually virginal state is – and how we can reconnect with our original sexual innocence.

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Who Shaped Your Sexual Self-Image?

Sally grew up in rural England amongst people who appear from the outside to be excessively polite. This in contrast to the story Sally shares with me: Since she was a young girl, she was molested by her grandfather who was a primary carer in her life. Her grandfather in turn was molested by his father, who was molested by his father… and so the pattern goes back for generations. What each victim of sexual abuse had in common was that they were sworn to silence. All that happened was never spoken about – and silently passed on to the next generation.

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How to be a Skydancer

In the Tibetan Tantric tradition, a woman whose sexual energy is awake is called a Dakini – which, literally translated, means Skydancer. While traditionally the Dakini is worshipped as a deity, it is understood that the essence of the Dakini lives in every woman. She is activated through a process of spiritual realization, or returning to the discovery of her true nature.

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Principles of Female Sexuality

I have created a short video about the principles of female sexuality. The sexual anatomy of men and women points to a significant difference in the mystical principles underlying our sexuality. If a woman approaches lovemaking like a man, she will never be fulfilled. And yet, most women were initiated into sexual experience by male sexual partners.

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Why Feminine Appearance is Pure Trickery

It seems there comes a time in the lives of so many women when we realize we have lived more in our masculine than in our feminine. Unfortunately, many pin this realization on to appearance and put themselves through a torturous process of attempting to look more feminine. This is the point where women often come to me with the desire to learn how to be feminine – as if feminine essence is another skill we could master. Or women aggressively set forth on a mission to appear more feminine by changing their dress style, their body shape (with diet or surgery), their shoes and handbags, and even their tone of voice. In this way, we play into a trickery that will do everything BUT put us in touch with our feminine essence. In this article, I’d like to explain why.

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