Relationship Hygiene 101

By Shakti Malan | May 17, 2017

When it comes to relationships, dare I say probably you, like me, have embarrassing tendencies, like getting really co-dependent or commitment-phobic? Of course the easy solution is to blame your partner for being a narcissist or some similarly impressive-sounding psychological misfit. Looking around in my own life and on social media gives me enough evidence…


When the feminine takes over

By Shakti Malan | May 16, 2017

In my last post to you, I’ve described what happens when your inner masculine is in balance – and what it looks and feels like when he gets out of balance. Now you’re probably wondering about your feminine. Yup, we all have an inner feminine (guys, spend a moment entertaining yourself by imagining her). When…


When my masculine gets too strong

By Shakti Malan | May 15, 2017

Ok, so we all have an inner masculine. When he is in balance in us, life develops an awesomely streamlined simplicity. The balanced masculine is on target, has one pointed focus and operates from an inner clarity that cuts through the bullshit and gets to the point. Things get done. Goals are achieved. Life runs…


Principles of Love – Words from Mother Mary

By Shakti Malan | March 29, 2017

I received the following download while I was at John of God in Brazil and would like to share it with you here. Beloved, I am Mother Mary. Thank for listening. For as long as human beings hold the perception that you are not love, you will always feel a shortage of love, and will…


How a Protestant Virgin became a Tantric Guide

By Shakti Malan | March 27, 2017

How a Protestant Virgin became a Tantric Guide   As a high school student, I was told after aptitude tests that the best career for me would be bureaucrat or office worker – “anything that feels safe and predictable”, the career guidance teacher said. Fast forward 30 years, and I’m a guide to many in…


How your Sexual Response shines Light on your Unconscious Emotional Life

By Shakti Malan | March 10, 2017

How your Sexual Response shines Light on your Unconscious Emotional Life   In the couple of decades that I now have worked with men and women across the globe, I have seen this everywhere: People are befuddled by their sexual response, or stuck in a belief that they can do nothing about it. Why do…


What is Liquid Body Aliveness?

By Shakti Malan | March 10, 2017

Most of us treat our bodies as functional objects moving around in space, and we only pay attention to them when they don’t do what we want them to do. What would it be like to live from inside the sensual aliveness of a body that is pulsing with the rhythm of the cosmos and moving in seamless oneness with life, like a river merging with the ocean? Rather than being the object of your life’s story – or the main character -. what would it be like to be the subject of your experience – the one who is moment to moment at play, from the inside of life, within this sensing-feeling-tasting-touching body of yours?


How You can Access the Bliss of Tantric Practice

By Shakti Malan | February 10, 2017

I’m on a mission in India to connect with the Tantric tradition of this country. Tantra means “weave” – and it refers to the practice of integrating – or weaving together – transcendent realization with life in the body on earth. Tantric masters over the ages have paid much attention to the way consciousness moves in our sexuality, and elaborate practices have been developed to access the spiritual essence of our sexuality – both in solo and couple’s practice.


Teaching Women to Weave Wings

By Shakti Malan | January 12, 2017

On my VisionQuest many years ago, I had a vision in which an eagle carried me on its back up a high cliff to the entrance of a cave. There was a doormat at the entrance of the cave, and inside lived an old hag. The eagle told me that she would show me how I could fly. I asked the hag and to my surprise, she gave me the doormat and told me that I could fly with it. Before I knew it, the doormat had become my wings and I was flying high up into other dimensions with the eagle.


Making Love with Liquid Bodies

By Shakti Malan | November 15, 2016

We live in a world that is massively driven and full of hard edges. When our daily lives are a constant push for achievement, our sexual experience will take the same tone. We’ll be hunting orgasm and fast reward – while at the same time feeling disconnected from a true sense of sexual flow. The reason is that driven sex is fired by dopamine – the neuropeptide that provides a quick feel-good sensation when we enter into the hunt. But the problem with dopamine is that “there ain’t no satisfaction” – any sexual experience that involved too much frenetic activity to reach orgasm will soon after bring a dump in our neurochemistry as the dopamine levels drop – which means we’ll have to get back on to the sexual treadmill. Or we might find ourselves losing interest in sex entirely.