“Our sexual response is one of the most complex and misunderstood dimensions of human relating. This is because it is so profoundly connected to our individual and collective unconscious. On the collective level, our culture and the political, religious and economic systems that control the culture have succeeded in demonizing and/or commercializing our sexuality in a myriad of ways. On the personal level, everything in our human experience that has not been fully felt and embraced gets suppressed into the unconscious. The body always attempts to show us what we haven't fully felt - and particularly the sexual body.”
- Shakti Malan, founder of the Shakti Shiva Academy


We are delighted to offer this 7-module home study course, Desire, Fear & Taboo, as a primer for our signature 9-month deep dive course called Sexual Shadow Work and Integration offered live through the Academy.  We've also designed Desire, Fear & Taboo to have enough content and depth to be a stand alone course in its own right for those who do not wish to continue with the 9-month intensive. This home study course is based on the Desire, Fear & Taboo book written by Shakti Malan, the founder of the Shakti Shiva Academy.  Through this course you will be empowered to awaken and access the true power of your sexuality.  Together we will delve into the dimensions of our sexuality that express themselves from our unconscious, or what Jung referred to as our “shadow”.

The body always attempts to show us what we haven't fully felt - and particularly the sexual body.

As you progress, you will get to see that conscious, loving and playful engagement with what we have not allowed ourselves to fully see, feel or experience in our sexuality not only relieves us of much shame and guilt, but more importantly, it gives us access to aspects of our psyches and selves that have been calling for our attention, usually from the shadow realms.


The shadow integrates when we bring it into the light of consciousness with our awareness.

Greco-Roman mythology portrays an epic love-affair between Eros - the son of Aphrodite (the Goddess of Love) and Ares (the God of War) - and his Beloved, Psyche (the deification of the human soul). Psyche literally means "soul, spirit, breath, life or animating force”. Out of their union Voluptas, the embodiment of physical pleasure and bliss, is born. 

This myth points to the truth that Eros will only be fully ignited as physical pleasure or bliss if Psyche is honoured - if we listen to the messages that our psyche brings us in regards to sexuality and intimacy. Usually, this listening takes us to places that we haven’t yet explored or honoured in our psyches, such as:

  •  suppressed anger or fear
  •  our relationship with power (Power over/power under dynamics)
  •  unconscious ancestral dynamics at play
  •  shocks and traumas from infancy and childhood
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In short, the sexual shadow takes us deep into the shadow of our unconscious.

Each of the modules in this home study course will reveal to you an enormous amount about yourself and about how to navigate the murky terrain of personal and collective sexual shadow themes - whilst holding all ideas and sensations with love, clarity and acceptance.

Through these 7 modules you will explore, at your own pace, the following themes and objectives:


  • Traverse your unconscious mind and witness how it shapes your experiences
  • Discover how your sexuality speaks from and for your unconscious
  • Learn how to meet and embrace your sexual shadow


  • Discover the polarities that comprise your compulsive sexual fantasies
  • Learn how to bring presence and integration to your unconscious polarities and projections
  • Learn the art of slowing the whole show down


  • Learn about desire and how to relate to your desire from the subject position
  • What is referred desire and how does it open the doors to the unconscious
  • Uncover what your deepest desires are


  • Learn about fears and how they impact your eroticism
  • Identify and learn to “face the tiger” of your biggest fears
  • Discover how your biggest desires are linked to your biggest fears


  • Learn about the victim-rescuer-persecutor drama triangle and its impact in your life
  • Identify your familiar roles and how you take or give away power 
  • Break free from habitual patterns and learn who you are without your story


  • Examine trauma’s role in why erotic response  can become frustratingly frozen
  • Understand the role and wisdom of the nervous system in this response
  • Explore simple strategies for thawing the freeze and recovering the life force within you the longs to express as your integrated sexuality


  • How to understand and make friends with your body’s subtle and overt wisdom
  • Learn about the impact of neurochemistry on your choices
  • How to move from sexual habituation to sexual integration in your personal sexual expression

Upon completion of this home study course, you'll be invited to participate in Sexual Shadow Work & Integration: a 9-month deeper dive into the sexual shadow theme.  The longer time frame and more in-depth format will help you take what you've learned in this home study course and apply it with more depth and care into your own life.  You can read more about the SSW&I course HERE.


BONUS E-BOOK Desire, Fear & Taboo by Shakti Malan

Accessing the luminous power of our sexuality requires the willingness to love our sexual shadows – every aspect of our sexuality which plays out from the subconscious.  In this book, Shakti gives a fundamental introduction to how to work with your sexual unconscious.  The intention of this book is to give you all the basic tools and understanding you will need to begin working with your own sexual shadows.  Anyone who senses the power of sexuality and wants to wake up the divine essence of their sexuality should read this book and do the practices!

* This Desire, Fear & Taboo Ebook is now only available as a bonus gift with this Home Study Course, with the live offering of the 7-week Desire, Fear & Taboo mini-course and also the 9-month Sexual Shadow Integration Work Intensive online course.

BONUS RECORDING Conscious BDSM - A Tantra Talk by Shakti Malan.

We are delighted to offer this previously unreleased recording from Shakti’s USA teaching tour in 2011.  BDSM is in essence, working with our erotic response as it connects to power and the purpose of this work is using erotic exploration as a way to awaken consciousness.  In this talk (2hrs19 mins), Shakti shares an introduction and background to BDSM and speaks to association in eroticism and the dynamic between arousal and fear in our eroticism.  She explores an aspect of the work looking at the relationship between the inner feminine and inner masculine and the dynamic of the ‘junior male’ and the ’senior male’ where our association in patriarchy is with power being masculine.  Shakti unpacks the Structure of BDSM (The Petition and the Roles of Dom & Sub), investigates the Drama Triangle of victim-rescuer-persecutor and lastly looks at how to work with the Nervous System.

BONUS RECORDING with Guest Teacher Lisa Grace

Having plunged into the San Francisco Bay Area kink scene in 2005 and then becoming a devoted student of Shakti Malan’s in 2010, Lisa has been straddling the worlds of BDSM and Tantra for the last decade. Superficially believed to be mutually exclusive practices, you’ll notice in the Desire, Fear & Taboo home study course that BDSM is mentioned as a way to process fantasy and move towards the real of relating. In this bonus recording, Lisa shares some of her story of discovery and explores how these energetic arts actually do serve each other.



  • As a student of the Desire, Fear & Taboo Home Study Course, we warmly invite you to join the next live offering of this 7-week mini course at 50% off the course fees. The next live offering of this course is scheduled to start in October 2021.
  • If you receive benefit from this course, we invite you to continue deepening your exploration of both your personal sexual shadow as well as the collective sexual shadow by joining our 9-month Sexual Shadow Integration Work course. As a student of the Desire, Fear & Taboo Home Study Course you will receive the FULL cost of the Home Study course ($195) off the course fees. (The next offering of this course is scheduled to start in April 2022) 


  • 7 recorded teaching sessions, a written pdf and a recorded audio of the pdf for each module

  • Homework assignments and supplementary materials with reflection questions

  • Guided Meditation: You will receive an Audio Recording with each module

  • A copy of Shakti Malan's ebook: Desire, Fear & Taboo

  • Bonus Recording: Conscious BDSM - A Tantra Talk by Shakti Malan

  • Bonus Call Recording with Guest Teacher Lisa Grace

  • Access to a course website to retrieve all materials and a Facebook group to share and explore with other participants


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Claire Rumore

Bringing over 15 year’s worth of experience with sexual and somatic education alongside shamanic and Tantric training, Claire works as a coach, counselor, mentor, confidant, and teacher of sexuality and spirituality. She has formal training in life coaching from San Francisco State University as well as somatic psychotherapy through the Hakomi Institute of California, and is a certified Soul Coach trained by internationally renowned teacher Denise Linn. She is also a certified sex educator through the San Francisco Sex Information initiative, a long time student and mentee of the late Shakti Malan, a Reiki Master, a touch work professional, and a student of Paganism and practical magic. Learn more about her work at www.YourSensualWisdom.com


Rhianne van der Linde

Rhianne is an avid alchemist and a dedicated dreamer with a depth of knowledge and experience of transforming the mundane into the magical. Her knowing that embodiment is rooted in relaxation and that every breath is an opportunity for us to wake-up to the bliss that is our birthright, inspires her to co-create intimate in-person and online spaces for vulnerable exploration and sharing in Truth. Truth as emptiness and Truth as embodiment – as consciousness expressing in form, in beautiful bodies of love…it is this language of the heart, this feminine language of embodiment & feeling that Rhianne is most interested in learning and sharing.



Purchase now for our special price of $195 (regular price: $245)

$195 one time payment, or

$105 x 2 monthly payments, or

$75 x  3 monthly payments

A currency related price of ZAR2500 (for one-time payment) is available for South Africans paying by EFT.

Please email rhianne@shaktishiva.academy for further details


  • Does the course require specific knowledge or experience?

    No. In fact, sometimes the less you know, the better it is – this opens you to beginner’s mind and to meeting the material in a fresh way.

  • How do I best engage this home study course?

    We have created this course for you to pace yourself.  We have done our best to include something for all online learning styles: visual learners, auditory learners, readers, and those who like “extra credit.”  This course will require discipline and attention to receive the most benefit.  When taught live, one module is released every week for 7 weeks.  That pace might be too fast for you, or it might be just right.  Trust your discernment and give it your all!  Your efforts will be worth it.

  • What if I need more support?

    If you find that you require additional support with the content of this course, you are welcome to contact any of the facilitators at the Shakti Shiva Academy and book private sessions. These sessions are booked, paid and negotiated separately between you and the facilitator through their private practice. Please inquire for more information. 

  • Do I have to finish the course in a certain time period?

    No. Because you are able to download all the materials, you can work through them at your own pace.  We recommend completing the course within 6-12 months of purchase; however, that is entirely up to you.

  • Do I need a partner to do this work?

    No, this course is designed to be a personal journey, tapping into your own personal desires, fantasies and inner discoveries. For those who are in partnerships, you may find that this will bring a greater dimension to your relating and intimacy with one another.

  • Do you provide refunds?

    If there are technological issues from our side that can not be resolved, then we will certainly provide a refund. Otherwise, we do not offer refunds for our online home study courses. All materials are available indefinitely and are also downloadable so that you can work through them at your own pace.