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Sexual Shadow Integration

What can be teased to the surface in you about how you hold all the forms of your eroticism? What is erotic? What is perverse? What is erotic and perverse? What brings the most charge to our beings in the form of fear and desire?
And what dear messages are those arousals giving us?

When: 17 — 24 April 2026
Venue: Bodhi Khaya, Standford, South Africa

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This retreat offers you the courageous space to turn inward, illuminating the parts of yourself that long to be seen, held, and transformed. With compassionate guidance from Lisa Grace and Rahasya, you will gain the tools to break free from unconscious limitations and step into a more empowered, authentic, and embodied expression of your sexuality.

What if the parts of yourself you’ve been taught to hide hold the key to your deepest freedom?

Join Lisa Grace and Rahasya for an immersive retreat based on the transformative Sexual Shadow Integration work of the Shakti Shiva Academy. This retreat is an invitation to explore, embrace, and integrate the hidden aspects of your sexuality—those unconscious patterns, fears, and desires that shape your intimate experiences and personal relationships.

Through a unique blend of guided shadow work, embodiment practices, and sacred inquiry, you will embark on a powerful journey of self-discovery, moving beyond shame and repression into a state of wholeness and liberation.

“The body always attempts to show us what we haven’t fully felt - and particularly the sexual body.”

Shakti Malan

What Awaits You?

  • Shadow Exploration – Bring awareness to the unconscious beliefs and patterns that influence your sexuality and relationships.
  • Emotional & Somatic Healing – Release shame, fear, and conditioning stored in the body through deep healing practices.
  • Sacred Integration – Reclaim your desires, boundaries, and self-expression with conscious awareness and self-love.
  • Authentic Connection – Engage in a safe, supportive space with like-minded individuals on a similar path of transformation.

Why This Retreat?

For those ready to dive deeper, this will be a legitimate immersion into the reinforcement of repeated practice. Each day immersed goes deeper than the last as old structures are invited to dissolve and welcome new ways of being.

Please be prepared that this weekend is meant to disrupt you. Have support in place for continued integration.  Know that everyone’s shit is invited to the table and that this field requires a mutual commitment to personal growth. Part of the beauty of group work is that other selves are present to perfectly reflect edges we didn’t even know we needed to work! This will be a deeply held space of loving support, and each person needs to show up with a commitment to a relaxed ego and heart-based truth.  We are trusting each other.
Participants must be prepared with a basic embrace of equanimity, and interest in being uncomfortable.  In this environment, triggers are golden treasure troves of information, and everything is an opportunity to move through what has been put away for later. 

Many of us carry unspoken wounds, conditioning, or shame around our sexuality—whether inherited from family, culture, or personal experience. When left unexplored, these shadows can create patterns of disconnection, fear, or self-sabotage in our intimate lives.

This retreat offers you the courageous space to turn inward, illuminating the parts of yourself that long to be seen, held, and transformed. With compassionate guidance from Lisa Grace and Rahasya, you will gain the tools to break free from unconscious limitations and step into a more empowered, authentic, and embodied expression of your sexuality.

“The body always attempts to show us what we haven’t fully felt - and particularly the sexual body.”

Shakti Malan

Our venue:

Bodhi Khaya Nature Retreat

At the foot of the Witkrans Mountain in the Overberg region, on the Southern tip of Africa, Bodhi Khaya Nature Retreat is in one of the most diverse biospheres in the world – one of only seven floral kingdoms on the planet. Surrounded by indigenous Fynbos and ancient Milkwood forests it is a special place to reconnect to the ancient wisdom and healing power of nature. 

Bodhi Khaya provides a safe and nourishing environment for personal transformation. You’re invited to explore the library, indulge in a massage, take a forest walk, enjoy the sauna and take a refreshing dip in the spring-fed lily ponds…

Catering:

Bodhi Khaya’s kitchen has a reputation for delicious, nurturing & nourishing country food using organic, seasonal produce fresh from the garden and other locally sourced fresh ingredients, combined with the cook’s spontaneous creativity!

Feedback from past attendees

"The course was led with such grace, wisdom, softness and gentleness and incredible containment for healing and transformation. This work is so needed in the global shift in consciousness, that is happening right now on our planet. Opportunities are constantly being presented to us, to discard layers of our constructed identities and biases that no longer serve us."
Colleen Wiltshire (Maverick Entrepreneur & Mentor)
Colleen Wiltshire (Maverick Entrepreneur & Mentor)South Africa
"I enjoyed how deep this course went. I continue to revisit the course materials since participating in 2018 and each time, I integrate a new layer of my shadow. I was able to gain incredible awareness in my eroticism on a deeper, darker level, which helped me to own certain parts of my sexuality that I had been denying myself permission to own and enjoy previously. I definitely recommend this program - it changed my life and I’ve continued soaking up the lessons and taking them deeper or into newer territory each time."
Amber Renée (Eros & Money Mentor)
Amber Renée (Eros & Money Mentor)Cape Town, South Africa
"This course takes you out of your comfort zone and shines a light into the dark areas of your life that you didn’t even know existed. It challenged my thinking and expanded my wisdom and knowledge about who I am and what’s holding me back. I feel freedom now in my thoughts and about my relationship with myself and others."
David MacKenzie (Tantric Traveler)
David MacKenzie (Tantric Traveler)Mataram, Indonesia
"This course allowed me to better understand myself in terms of my sexual orientation. We all have areas that we fail to see within, whether in our sexuality or in other aspects of self and this course provided an objective mirror which enabled me to dive deeply into myself and move through those some of those ‘blind spots’."
Zakir Mahomedy (Somatic Sensory Sexology)
Zakir Mahomedy (Somatic Sensory Sexology)KZN, South Africa
"This is one of the best courses I have done and brings such rich learning across many different subjects diving into the depth of ourselves. I found it brought a whole new dimension of learning and took me on a profound journey into the shadows of my conscious awareness. The facilitators hold such a beautiful space which really supports openness and brings a community together into connection from around the world."
Amanda Smith (Founder of Inner Life Breathwork)
Amanda Smith (Founder of Inner Life Breathwork)Alnwick, UK
"Sexual Shadow Work is powerful stuff to be doing. I found myself together with a group of seekers on an incredible journey that was so well held by facilitators with deep personal experience. It was an honour to participate in and witness all the things we explored on our journey together. There are so many layers to this Sexual Shadow Work and so many possible benefits. Do not hesitate at all if this work is calling you…”
Daren Howarth (C Level founder / Nature Based Solutions)
Daren Howarth (C Level founder / Nature Based Solutions)Brighton, England, United Kingdom
“The Sexual Shadow Integration Work Course has been like walking out of a deep, dark and fearful dungeon and opening a door to a world of vibrant possibility. It’s been a revelational shift of perspective! I have progressed from believing sex was a shameful, secret, painful, procreative necessity of nature to understanding sexual energy as the natural expression of life itself. I needed this safe and affirming sharing-forum to take the risk to explore my own experiences and vulnerabilities.”
Jan Bull (Acupuncturist & Qi-Gong Teacher)
Jan Bull (Acupuncturist & Qi-Gong Teacher) Toronto, Canada
"Before entering the Shakti Shiva Academy, I felt imprisoned by the shame and rigidities of my past and wanted to renew my path of self-discovery and spirituality. The academy gave me tools, insights, and support to help me free myself from my dysfunctional thinking and become a more self-aware, loving, and liberated human. And now I can say I'm a bit closer to finding the Divine in myself and my relationships."
Clay Copeland (Consultant in nonprofit management)
Clay Copeland (Consultant in nonprofit management)San Francisco, USA
"When I began this course I didn't know what to expect, I was a little afraid of what the content might entail me to do. I found the course is delivered in such a way that you could dip your toes in gently or dive deep. The facilitators all have a wealth of knowledge & experience & offer wonderful support. I particularly found the zoom calls very informative, especially when I was struggling with a concept. Doing this course definitely enriched my life & opened my awareness regarding my own sexuality."
Christine Lloyd
Christine Lloyd Coffs Harbour, NSW Australia.
"The course gave me more understanding of what kind of things I have "hiding in the shadows" and a knowing that going deeper into sexual shadow work will help to liberate my sexuality, open me up to pleasure again and bring radical improvements to intimate relationships. I felt the course helped me to start looking into areas within myself where the natural flow of life energy has been blocked. I would definitely recommend this course! It is a great quality tantric course, very well put together and full of deep insight. It is a profound journey into authentic, liberated sexuality."
Hanna Uusitalo (physiotherapist)
Hanna Uusitalo (physiotherapist)Helsinki, Finland
"This course is a deep dive into the intimacy you don’t dare to touch, that part of you whispering behind your ear every time you get aroused. You will encounter every desire, every taboo, every forbidden dream buried under the sheets of your youth, unchaining the wild beast of pleasure within. You will finally see yourself for who you are - you will drop the story, the fear, the shame - you will fall in love with every part of your dark side, learning to feel it, love it, pleasure it.”
Paula González Collado (enneagramist & ontological coach)
Paula González Collado (enneagramist & ontological coach)Santiago, Chile
“SSIW was such an eye opening experience, offering me the safest of spaces to deeply contemplate and deconstruct, especially the taboo. I learned so much about myself, resulting in a deeper sense of unapologetic freedom. I also learned timeless and priceless tools that I will carry forth sharing in my own work as a facilitator.”
Gabriella Mazure (Mentor, Priestess, Artist, Healing Facilitator)
Gabriella Mazure (Mentor, Priestess, Artist, Healing Facilitator)Ubud, Bali
“The high quality material of this course has been carefully and thoughtfully put together, reflecting the deep understanding and inner experience of the course creator and facilitators. It also covers topics that most other courses shy away from. The course was very professionally organised and I felt very safe in the container that was provided. The materials were clear and easy to understand and there is space to go really deep with your own reflection and inner work. I also really liked how the course allowed me to go at my own pace and only as deep as I was ready to go.”
Emmi Mutale (Sacred Feminine Power Podcast, Womb Shaman, Author)
Emmi Mutale (Sacred Feminine Power Podcast, Womb Shaman, Author)Lusaka, Zambia
"This course is hands down some of the most potent and profound healing processes around sexuality I've ever encountered. Shakti's work lives on; and the team that continues her work is impressive. The course should be a prerequisite for all professionals in sexuality, and anyone interested in their transformation and sexual healing."
Bella LaVey (Holistic Sex Coach)
Bella LaVey (Holistic Sex Coach)Vilcabamba, Loja, Ecuador
“This course allowed me to explore my sexual desire, encounter cultural taboo’s, integrate trauma and transcend duality. The journey opened my eyes to the beauty of life.”
Phoebe Lung (Personal Development & Training Consultant)
Phoebe Lung (Personal Development & Training Consultant)Hong Kong
“Amazing journey into the depths of the unconscious, a beautiful way to become more of who we truly are, integrating shadows and dancing with Eros”.
Olga Laima (tantra, kundalini, yoga, nidra, somatic coaching)
Olga Laima (tantra, kundalini, yoga, nidra, somatic coaching)Poland

Booking Process:

Prices include all accommodation, meals & facilitation
Prices are per person (sharing or single)

1. Complete the Application Form:

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2. Choose your Accommodation & Payment Plan method:

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  • Accommodation (Cloister, Courtyard Shared, Courtyard Single, Garden Room Shared, Garden Room Single or Camping BYO Tent & Bedding)
  • Payment Plan (3-monthly payments, 2-monthly payments or One-Time payment)

3. If you have any questions, we invite you to schedule a discovery call

Discovery Call with Rhianne

Facilitation Team

Lisa Grace

SENIOR FACULTY
Based in the Bay Area, California, Lisa has spent the last two decades gathering tools to support humans in being fully embodied, expressed, and able to stay present with the truth of What Is.
With a degree in Performing Arts and Psychology, she has since traversed BDSM (bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, sadism/masochism otherwise known as “kink”), the extreme non-violence of mindfulness based Hakomi Therapy, Advait Tantra (non-duality and the expansive liberation of sexual energy as universal consciousness), and is a Master Practitioner of Transformational NLP (neuro-linguistic programming). Lisa’s work is about getting real with all the internal polarities (such as masculine and feminine identification, desire and fear, guilt and innocence) that motivate pursuits and avoidances, creating grasping, shame, and fear- and finding the full power and authenticity hiding in the shadows. She is especially passionate about furthering conversations around gender and the queering of Tantra. In 2011 Lisa met Shakti Malan who quickly became a major influence in her life through her Totality Therapy Training, Soulmate Within, Sexual Awakening for Women, and Somatic Healing for Sexual Trauma courses. Lisa was a Senior Student of Shakti from 2014-2017 and is currently in training with Sacred founders, Justin Patrick Pierce and Londin Angel Winters. Specialities: Shadow work, parts integration, Western Sacred Sexuality, Advait Tantra (non-duality), Transformational NeuroLinguistic Programing, mindfulness and guided meditation, somatic education, kink, polyamory, and other alternative forms of relating To view more about the work that Lisa offers you can view her website and book a session. Website: http://www.sacredawakening.com/

Swami Advait Rahasya

SENIOR FACULTY

Swami Rahasya is as much a rascally trickster as he is a serious pundit of Tantric Spirituality. He uses tongue-and-cheek, irony, and colourful stories (personal, archetypal, and beyond) to share the high teachings of the Tantric adepts of old.

Rahasya has been a lifelong student of tantra. His worldly involvement has included the practising of several professions, the learning of an unusual range of skills and the sexual learning available through several relationship styles, including 14 years of monogamy.

He’s the founder of the Advait Tantra School, a school known for producing remarkable teachers (several of his students are now significant tantra teachers in their own right) and author of The Rocky Horror Tantra Book.

The Rocky Horror Tantra Book is a deep exploration of Tantric practice and has become a standard work for modern students of tantra. It describes the path through stories and discourse. Be warned. This book strongly challenges many popular ideas about love, relationship, spiritual endeavour. It is also powerfully and unashamedly erotic, as is the journey of tantra itself.

“Tantra is the roughest, rockiest and unquestionably the most horrible of spiritual paths. It is not a journey for the faint-hearted, the weak-minded or the emotionally troubled. It presents serious difficulties even to the heroic. It is as harsh as the Truths of Life themselves. Just reading about it though, is probably not all that dangerous …”

Rahasya has been teaching tantra since 2002 – he lives and teaches in South Africa and is now mostly teaching the volunteers who’re helping him build Little Tibet, a retreat centre 200km from Cape Town.Specialities: Shadow work, erotic work, touch work, fantasy & taboos, polarity processing

Watch Rahasya on YouTube || Join the Advait Tantra School on Facebook
Email: tantraschool@gmail.com

F.A.Q

Who is this retreat for?

For those ready to dive deeper than the sampler platter of the one-day offered in February this will be a legitimate immersion into the reinforcement of repeated practice. Each day immersed goes deeper than the last as old structures are invited to dissolve and welcome new ways of being.

This weekend will continue on with the foundational themes:

  • Experience creating personal safety
  • Bring awareness to just how much of your identity is currently run by your subconscious
  • Play with polarities – exploring the trap of pursuit and avoidance
  • Increase your capacity for being in the unknown
  • Remain embodied and self-referenced
  • Don’t take yourself too seriously 😉
 
Please be prepared that this weekend is meant to disrupt you. Have support in place for continued integration.  Know that everyone’s shit is invited to the table and that this field requires a mutual commitment to personal growth. Part of the beauty of group work is that other selves are present to perfectly reflect edges we didn’t even know we needed to work! This will be a deeply held space of loving support, and each person needs to show up with a commitment to a relaxed ego and heart-based truth.  We are trusting each other.
Participants must be prepared with a basic embrace of equanimity, and interest in being uncomfortable.  In this environment, triggers are golden treasure troves of information, and everything is an opportunity to move through what has been put away for later. 

Yes, you’re welcome to participate on your own.  Whether you’re single or in partnership / relationship, this retreat is designed as a solo experience alongside and together with others.  You will have the opportunity to deepen in intimacy with yourself and with others.

Yes, please take your time to complete the application form as it is of great support in enabling us to co-create a powerful and rich experience for all of us.  We hugely appreciate your care & consideration with this.

  • Travel from home country to South Africa
  • Gratuities
  • Gifts, curio’s & personal items
  • Travel to and from Bodhi Khaya Nature Retreat
  • Fully facilitated BlissDance Retreat programme with Kali, Steph and Rhianne; including guided and spontaneous movement meditations and practices, awakened breath work, rites of passage and ceremony
  • Accommodation of your choice
  • All meals (vegetarian)
  • The closest airport to fly into is Cape Town International.  
  • We advise arriving a minimum of 1 day early and overnighting in Cape Town, fresh and ready for transfer to Bodhi Khaya on Wednesday 23 April.
  • Cape Town is a modern, cosmopolitan city surrounded by nature. Lying between Table Mountain and the Atlantic Ocean, it is one of the most sought-after holiday destinations around the globe. 
  • Cape Town is a wonderful city to spend at the very least a few days in as a tourist. Please connect with Rhianne should you require any assistance with planning your itinerary. 
  • Bodhi Khaya is approximately 150 mins by car from Cape Town. We will connect participants together for lift sharing purposes. We encourage our locally based participants to offer a ride to our international participants & travelers.
  • Shakti Shiva Academy can arrange transport (if required) with a shuttle bus from Cape Town to Bodhi Khaya (23 April) as well as from Bodhi Khaya back to Cape Town (30 April). Please note this cost will be additional to the retreat cost and is entirely dependent on how many participants require this service.
  • * Cancellation up to and inc. 31 January 2024: All payments (less your non-refundable deposit) will be refunded to you
  • * Cancellation up to and inc. 29 February 2024: 75% of your payments (less your non-refundable deposit) will be refunded to you
  • * Cancellation up to and inc. 31 March 2024: 50% of your payments (less your non-refundable deposit) will be refunded to you
  • * Should you cancel after 31 March 2024: no refund will be due to you and you will forfeit any and all payments made.   

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