Sexual Shadow Work & Integration A 9-Month Online Deep Dive into Your Sexual Unconscious

~ Starting July 2020 ~


Sexual Shadow Work & Integration A 9-Month Online Deep Dive into Your Sexual Unconscious


Sexual Shadow Work & Integration is a process of working with our unconscious and conscious selves to seek liberation. Sexual Shadow Integration addresses the dimensions of our sexuality that are held in the unconscious.

What this means is that what plays out in our sexuality is often the result of beliefs or experiences that live in our unconscious. In other words, we are not fully aware of them and have not embraced them with awareness and love.

This course addresses, in a profound way, questions such as:

  • What to do about sexual fantasy arising?
  • How do I free myself from the memory of sexual trauma?
  • What are affairs about?
  • How can I overcome the shame, guilt and embarrassment that comes up for me around sex?
  • What if I don’t feel any sexual desire?

"Since taking this course, things have shifted so much that I am now even willing to consider myself a sexual being and I am no longer ashamed to speak of sexuality. I can speak into this area with my patients and I have written blogs now that speak into this area which I never would have been able to do previously." - Jan, USA

During this course, we will systematically immerse ourselves in the main themes that express in people’s sexual shadow lives.

Through sexual shadow work, we get to see that by consciously, lovingly and playfully engaging with what we have not allowed ourselves to fully see in our sexuality, not only relieves us of much shame and guilt but more importantly – it gives us access to aspects of our psyches that have been calling for our attention.

You will have the opportunity to: 

  • discover and release suppressed anger or fear,
  • unpack your relationship with power (power over, power under dynamics)
  • learn about your unconscious ancestral dynamics at play, and
  • disarm shocks and traumas from infancy and childhood

During these 9 months, you will learn an enormous amount about yourself. Engaging in sexual shadow work you will navigate through the murky terrain of personal and collective sexual shadow - gifting you with the capacity to hold everything in love and clarity.



sexual shadow: black snake on grey backgroundExploring Eros as a pathway into the unconscious and why our lovemaking is not yet the ultimate meditation. Why we need to spend time at the walls of the outer temple of desire and fantasy before we can enter into the pure presence of the inner temple. Discover why the erotic is such a valuable tool for integrating what is in the unconscious. We will look at five reasons to embrace our desire and engage with a practice to meet and embrace our sexual shadow.


sexual shadow young girl holding onto empty bird cageFurthering our exploration of desire and discover how to move beyond objective to subjective desire. Engaging in a practice of holding sensations in awareness, discovering our own holiness and embracing the qualities of innocence and pure presence. 


sexual shadow two wolves facing each other in moonlight. a black on and white one If we desire to move from a place where our reality is defined by our ego, to living from our soul’s truth, it is valuable to be able to identify and integrate the polarities from which we unconsciously live. During this module we will engage in Polarity Processing, a key method for the transformation and integration of unconscious material. 


sexual shadow fierce shark with open jawsUnderstanding the Law of Duality, we realize that as desire is discovered, so are we presented with the opportunities to face our fears. In this module we will explore archetypal fears that arise from the unconscious and investigate ways in which our fears of being shamed, humiliated, embarrassed or feeling guilty show up in our erotic lives and how to work with them.



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In this module, we will examine how to free ourselves from the unconscious contracts and addiction patterns around intimacy inherited from our ancestors that have shaped our current relationship with sexuality. How to become the creators of our own experiences. 


sexual shadow face of lion behind triangle shapeA significant pattern that is revealed when the unconscious gets integrated is that, somewhere along the line, we have felt like we were victims. Where there is a victim, there is a rescuer and a perpetrator. In this module we will explore the Karpman Drama Triangle and how to free ourselves from the cycle of repetition. 


sexual shadow black scarf on grey backgroundIn this module we will explore ways of entering into power and control eroticism as well as explore anger as an emotion that can be hard to let ourselves feel. We will look into conscious and unconscious power dynamics in relationships as well as submission versus control and bondage. We will engage with exercises to release anger in safe ways and how to balance our energy after venting.


sexual shadow adult content written on black backgroundIn this module, we will explore erotic fantasy themes that are a taboo-breaking response to traditional ideas. Specifically, the themes are threesomes, group & public sex, extramarital sex, wilderness fantasies and exploring our wild instinctual animal natures.


sexual shadow black crow flying on white backgroundHere we will get a basic understanding of what sexual trauma is, how it is stored in the unconscious, how it becomes conscious and how sexual trauma can be released. You will see that our sexual body can show trauma responses even when we have had no overt sexual trauma. We will develop a relationship with our wise body and learn to trust the nervous system. We will engage in practices and exercises to find your conscious NO and YES enabling us to become fully embodied while honouring our story and receiving our gifts of experience and healing.


During the nine months, we will deeply explore all aspects of the erotic unconscious in a close group of students, learning and discovering through not only our own explorations but from one another in a container of safety and non-judgement.

This course forms part of our longer TOTALITY THERAPY TRAINING and comprises one of the four modules required to complete this training and become a facilitator.  The teaching is experiential and will call you to live through all aspects that the course addresses. However, please note that a partner is not required to do this work. 

This course is ideal for professionals who are or would like to work with the theme of sexuality in private practice or group work.

For those interested in participating for professional training reasons, this course covers the personal explorations component of your training. I.e. Giving you the opportunity to guide your clients from a place of lived experience and compassionate understanding rather than theory alone. Training for facilitating this work will take place in a later module forming part of the Totality Therapy Training.

This course is entirely suitable for individual and personal development motivations only.


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  • Fornightly teaching sessions (lives calls* and written pdf)

  • Homework Assignments and supplementary materials with reflection questions

  • Access to a course website to retrieve all materials and Facebook group to share and explore with fellow participants

  • Supplementary bonus teaching sessions with guest teachers

  • A copy of Shakti Malan's ebook: Basic Sexual Shadow Work

  • A Student WhatsApp Gorup for support and sharing (optional participation)

** Calls will take place on Thursdays at 10am PT (7pm SA, 6pm UK) and will last approximatley 90 minutes. All calls will be recorded for those who are not able to attend the live sessions.



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Claire Rumore

Claire was raised Catholic and attended Catholic school for many years. She grew up in a sexually repressed and confusing culture in the southern region of the United States. Abstinence until marriage was the expectation and "sex makes you feel guilty" was the attitude. Though at the time she felt enveloped by hypocrisy and confusion, this set of conservative circumstances proved to be blessing by later inspiring her to become a student of human sexuality and gender studies.

Bringing over 15 year’s worth of experience with sexual and somatic education alongside shamanic and Tantric training, Claire works as a coach, counselor, mentor, confidant and teacher of sexuality and spirituality. She has formal training in life coaching from San Francisco State University plus somatic psychotherapy through the Hakomi Institute of California, and is a certified Soul Coach trained by internationally renowned teacher Denise Linn. She is also a certified sex educator through the San Francisco Sex Information initiative, a long time student and mentee of the late Shakti Malan, a Reiki Master, a CMT, and a pagan Priestess-in-training.


Rhianne van der Linde

Rhianne is an avid alchemist and a dedicated dreamer with a depth of knowledge and experience of transforming the mundane into the magical. Her personal explorations have led her into working with dreams, as a companion to those busy with their journey of dying, exploring the breath as a thread connecting us directly to source & processing and ritual with groups in wild nature. Truth as emptiness and Truth as embodiment - as consciousness expressing in form, in beautiful bodies of love...it is this language of the heart, this feminine language of embodiment & feeling that Rhianne is most interested in learning and sharing.

Participating in the first 18-month Online Totality Therapy Training offered by Shakti in 2012/13 was a profoundly transformative period in her life. This ‘work’ opened her up to the vastness of Being by confronting her with every belief she ever held about herself, about the ‘other’ and about the world we live in. Her reality, consensual reality… what is the Truth of Reality?

These questions turned her inside, outside, upside down…presented a rare opportunity to investigate who we really are beyond right and wrong, beyond gender stereotypes and ancestral expectations. During the last 8 years or so, she has explored her (personal) sexuality and its expression outside of the usual definition of ‘relationship’. What does that look like for her? What is her desire,? Where is her attraction?  So here she is, following her Bliss, taking responsibility for everything that arises in the field of experience and deeply knowing that it is the only way to live a truly human life.

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Lisa Grace

Lisa has spent the last two decades gathering tools to support humans in being fully embodied, expressed, and able to stay present with the truth of What Is.
With a degree in Performing Arts and Psychology, she has since traversed BDSM (bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, sadism/masochism otherwise known as "kink"), the extreme non-violence of mindfulness based Hakomi Therapy, Advait Tantra (non-duality and the expansive liberation of sexual energy as universal consciousness), and is a Master Practitioner of Transformational NLP (neuro-linguistic programming). Lisa’s work is about getting real with all the internal polarities (such as masculine and feminine identification, desire and fear, guilt and innocence) that motivate pursuits and avoidances, creating grasping, shame, and fear- and finding the full power and authenticity hiding in the shadows. She is especially passionate about furthering conversations around gender and the queering of Tantra.

Tiffany Stone

Tiffany has a passion for psychological processes, depth facilitation, process work and shadow work integration specializing in facilitating deep and insightful inner work dialogues using a practice to access our inner relationship dynamics through reflections in our external relating. She takes a no-nonsense approach in the seeking of radical clarity through honesty and often asking uncomfortable questions.

After growing up in a conservative religious environment, Tiffany married young and followed what she thought was "the right thing to do". After breaking through her illusions she embarked on a life altering journey of self-discovery which has taken her through many varied terrains from tantric explorations to shamanic practices to training in ancestral lineages through family constellations work. Ultimately her favourite tool is to remain unfathomably curious with her own psyche and hidden shadow desires as a guide to piecing together the puzzle of patterns in the life of her creation.



Register for the course for either a discounted once-off fee of $1300 or an easy monthly payment plan of $149 for 10 months.

Headshot Claire Rumore 2018

Want more support?

There is the option to join the course with the addition of either 4 or 9 personal 1:1 sessions where you can unfold your discoveries with one of our facilitators.

Choose to have sessions with each of them and benefit from their unique insights to your personal aspects, or choose one to hold your hand through the whole process, leveraging off following the threads of your desire and patterning.

Both options have a once-off payment option or 10-month payment plan.


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  • Do I need a partner to do this work?

    No, this course is designed to be a personal journey, tapping into your own personal desires, fantasies and inner discoveries. For those who are in partnerships you may find that this will bring a greater dimension to your relating and intimacy with one another. 

  • I can't attend the coaching sessions live - what now?

    Not a problem – sessions are recorded and will be available within 24 hours so you can download and listen to them at your own convenience. 

  • What if I need more support?

    If you find you require additional support aside from the group coaching sessions provided with this course, then you are welcome to approach any of the facilitators and book private sessions. These sessions are booked and paid separately and negotiated between you and the facilitator in their private capacity. 

  • Do I have to finish the course in a certain time period?

    No. Because you are able to download all the materials, you can work through them at your own pace. You will have access to the community website for one full year so that you can continue to interact and learn with the course participants even after you have completed your sessions. 

  • What about confidentiality?

    Your journey remains completely confidential. If you wish to share on the community website, there is a confidentiality agreement in place on the site.

  • Does the course require specific knowledge or experience?

    No. In fact, sometimes the less you know, the better it is – this opens you to beginner’s mind and to meeting the material in a fresh way.

  • Do you provide refunds?

    Withdrawal from the course is possible within the first month of registration. Your future payments will be cancelled however no refunds will be provided. Thereafter deregistration is no longer permitted. If you find yourself unable to keep up with the course then no problem: You will have lifetime access to the course and can participate with a future student group when the course is repeated. All materials are also downloadable for you to work through at your own pace.


We know there will definitely be questions and challenges arising all along the way, so to get the most out of this course, you need not only training, but ongoing support and a deep connection with others on the same path. A powerful learning community for your growth.
When you register for Sexual Shadow Work Course you’ll become part of an inspired, vibrant global learning community of individuals just like you who are seeking to connect with like-minded men and women. You’ll be engaging with the materials provided, and also with your fellow students from around the world through a private community website created exclusively for the participants in this course.