Sexual Shadow Integration Work A 9-Month Online Deep Dive into Your Sexual Unconscious

~ Starting April 2022 ~


Sexual Shadow Work & Integration A 9-Month Online Deep Dive into Your Sexual Unconscious


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Sexual Shadow Integration Work is a process of working with our unconscious and conscious selves to seek liberation and addressing the dimensions of our sexuality that are held in the unconscious.


What this means is that what plays out in our sexuality is often the result of beliefs or experiences that live in our unconscious. In other words, we are not fully aware of them and have not embraced them with awareness and love.


This course addresses, in a profound way, questions such as:

  • What to do about sexual fantasy arising?
  • How do I free myself from the memory of sexual trauma?
  • What are affairs about?
  • How can I overcome the shame, guilt and embarrassment that comes up for me around sex?
  • What if I don’t feel any sexual desire?

"Since taking this course, things have shifted so much that I am now even willing to consider myself a sexual being and I am no longer ashamed to speak of sexuality. I can speak into this area with my patients and I have written blogs now that speak into this area which I never would have been able to do previously." - Jan Bull, Toronto, Canada


During this course, we will systematically immerse ourselves in the main themes that express in people’s sexual shadow lives.

Through sexual shadow integration work, we get to see that by consciously, lovingly and playfully engaging with what we have not allowed ourselves to fully see in our sexuality, not only relieves us of much shame and guilt but more importantly – it gives us access to aspects of our psyches that have been calling for our attention.

will have the opportunity to: 

  • discover and release suppressed anger or fear,
  • unpack your relationship with power (power over, power under dynamics)
  • learn about your unconscious ancestral dynamics at play, and
  • disarm shocks and traumas from infancy and childhood

During these 9 months, you will learn an enormous amount about yourself. By engaging in sexual shadow integration work you will navigate through the murky terrain of personal and collective sexual shadow - gifting you with the capacity to hold everything that arises for you in love and clarity.



sexual shadow: black snake on grey backgroundExploring Eros as a pathway into the unconscious and why our lovemaking is not yet the ultimate meditation. Why we need to spend time at the walls of the outer temple of desire and fantasy before we can enter into the pure presence of the inner temple. Discover why the erotic is such a valuable tool for integrating what is in the unconscious. We will look at five reasons to embrace our desire and engage with a practice to meet and embrace our sexual shadow.


sexual shadow young girl holding onto empty bird cageFurthering our exploration of desire and discover how to move beyond objective to subjective desire. Engaging in a practice of holding sensations in awareness, discovering our own holiness and embracing the qualities of innocence and pure presence. 


sexual shadow two wolves facing each other in moonlight. a black on and white one If we desire to move from a place where our reality is defined by our ego, to living from our soul’s truth, it is valuable to be able to identify and integrate the polarities from which we unconsciously live. During this module we will engage in Polarity Processing, a key method for the transformation and integration of unconscious material. 


sexual shadow fierce shark with open jawsUnderstanding the Law of Duality, we realize that as desire is discovered, so are we presented with the opportunities to face our fears. In this module we will explore archetypal fears that arise from the unconscious and investigate ways in which our fears of being shamed, humiliated, embarrassed or feeling guilty show up in our erotic lives and how to work with them.



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In this module, we will examine how to free ourselves from the unconscious contracts and addiction patterns around intimacy inherited from our ancestors that have shaped our current relationship with sexuality. How to become the creators of our own experiences. 

MONTH 6: POWER OF THREE (September 2022)

sexual shadow face of lion behind triangle shapeA significant pattern that is revealed when the unconscious gets integrated is that, somewhere along the line, we have felt like we were victims. Where there is a victim, there is a rescuer and a perpetrator. In this module we will explore the Karpman Drama Triangle and how to free ourselves from the cycle of repetition. 


sexual shadow black scarf on grey backgroundIn this module we will explore ways of entering into power and control eroticism as well as explore anger as an emotion that can be hard to let ourselves feel. We will look into conscious and unconscious power dynamics in relationships as well as submission versus control and bondage. We will engage with exercises to release anger in safe ways and how to balance our energy after venting.


sexual shadow adult content written on black backgroundIn this module, we will explore erotic fantasy themes that are a taboo-breaking response to traditional ideas. Specifically, the themes are threesomes, group & public sex, extramarital sex, wilderness fantasies and exploring our wild instinctual animal natures.


sexual shadow black crow flying on white backgroundHere we will get a basic understanding of what sexual trauma is, how it is stored in the unconscious, how it becomes conscious and how sexual trauma can be released. You will see that our sexual body can show trauma responses even when we have had no overt sexual trauma. We will develop a relationship with our wise body and learn to trust the nervous system. We will engage in practices and exercises to find your conscious NO and YES enabling us to become fully embodied while honouring our story and receiving our gifts of experience and healing.


BONUS RECORDING: Conscious BDSM - A Tantra Talk by Shakti Malan.

We are delighted to offer this previously unreleased recording from Shakti’s USA teaching tour in 2011.  BDSM is in essence, working with our erotic response as it connects to power and the purpose of this work is using erotic exploration as a way to awaken consciousness.  In this talk (2hrs19 mins), Shakti shares an introduction and background to BDSM and speaks to association in eroticism and the dynamic between arousal and fear in our eroticism.  She explores an aspect of the work looking at the relationship between the inner feminine and inner masculine and the dynamic of the ‘junior male’ and the ’senior male’ where our association in patriarchy is with power being masculine.  Shakti unpacks the Structure of BDSM (The Petition and the Roles of Dom & Sub), investigates the Drama Triangle of victim-rescuer-persecutor and lastly looks at how to work with the Nervous System.

BONUS CALL with Guest Teacher Lisa Grace (TBC)

Having plunged into the San Francisco Bay Area kink scene in 2005 and then becoming a devoted student of Shakti Malan’s in 2010, Lisa has been straddling the worlds of BDSM and Tantra for the last decade. Superficially believed to be mutually exclusive practices, you’ll notice in the Sexual Shadow Integration Work course that BDSM is mentioned as a way to process fantasy and move towards the real of relating. In this bonus call, Lisa will share some of her story of discovery and explore how these energetic arts actually do serve each other. An opportunity to bring your judgments, bring your fears, and bring your questions.  Lisa's bonus call on our 7-week Basic Sexual Shadow Work mini-course was so well received and enjoyed that we've arranged another opportunity to dive even deeper into this juicy material...

Learn more about her work at www.sacredawakening.com

BONUS CALL with Guest Teacher Annu Tara (TBC)

Our blueprint for intimacy and how we relate to our sexual self is learned and formed in our earliest years through our familial bonds and kinship structures. In our shadow liberation work, we begin the deep and delicate process of detangling and restructuring the threads of our misunderstanding, fear, shame, trauma, vulnerability, possibility, permission and the unresolved pains we carry in our bodies and hearts.

But frequently, the true root of these issues is to be found much further back in the past than our current life experience. The unresolved pains and epigenetic trauma of our way-back ancestors become the legacy (or curse) of intimacy that we automatically inherit at birth. These patterns are powerfully alive in the DNA of our cells, blood and bone, are often unseen to us and difficult to parse out because we have never known anything different.

In this bonus call, Annu invites your curiosity in discovering how we can engage the dead in a healthy way to initiate profound healing, liberation and wholeness - not just for our current-time selves and ancestral past but also for our future descendants.

Annu Tara is an animist and ancestral practitioner, ritualist and ceremonial guide on a quest to better understand the intersecting themes of belonging, place/land, body, ancestry and healing in the context of a contemporary world that is death-phobic, grief-illiterate, trauma-congested, spiritually and culturally amnesiac, and struggling to orientate itself in life-thriving ways.

You can discover more about the work Annu offers at: www.annutara.co.uk

BONUS CALL with Guest Teacher Sw. A. Rahasya (Date TBC October 2022)

Eroticism is a kind of dream. It is an imagining of what we think we want which is projected upon our experience. By reversing our usual tendency of repression, we become aware of our eroticisms. By experiencing our erotic imaginings, we discover the truths which they conceal. However much we want our sex and our love to be fully conscious and present, if we won't meet what's in the unconscious, our love and our awareness can only go so deep. In this Bonus Call, Rahasya, will guide an exploration of the cultural eroticism to power and control i.r.o. sex, power, punishment and reward. This is an experimental & experiential module in which you will be encouraged to lean against the cultural habit, embrace fantasies and desires, lift taboos and suppressions, process polarities. Deepening our capacity for bliss and developing presence in the body.

"Swami Rahasya is as much a rascally trickster as he is a serious pundit of Tantric Spirituality. He uses tongue-and-cheek, irony, and colourful stories (personal, archetypal, and beyond) to share the high teachings of the Tantric adepts of old.”

BONUS CALL with Guest Teacher Karin Ritchie (TBC)

Karin Ritchie is a Trauma Healing Practitioner - a subtle healing modality that focuses on the science of the nervous system and the unlocking and releasing of trauma held in the body, mind and spirit. On this bonus call, she will share with us some of her understanding and experience of working with Somatic Experiencing. Karin also facilitates a 7-day retreat in collaboration with the Shakti Shiva Academy, "Freedom & The Nervous System" - in which we work very finely with unraveling trauma from the body in a gentle way that can be integrated and embodied.

You can discover more about the work Karin offers at: www.karinritchie.co.za


During the nine months, we will deeply explore all aspects of the erotic unconscious in a close group of students, learning and discovering through not only our own explorations but also from one another in a container of safety and non-judgement.

This course forms Part 2 of our 24-month TOTALITY THERAPY TRAINING and comprises one of the four Parts required to complete this training and become a certified facilitator.  The teaching is experiential and will call you to live through all aspects that the course addresses, however, please note that a partner is neither required nor essential to do this work. 

This course is ideal for professionals who are or would like to work with the theme of sexuality in private practice or group work.

For those interested in participating for professional training reasons, this course covers the personal exploration(s) component of your training, enabling you to guide your clients from a place of lived experience and compassionate understanding rather than from theory alone.

Should you be interested in facilitating this work, then the Shakti Shiva Academies 9-month Facilitation Training program - Part 4 of Totality Therapy Training - will complete your certification.  (You will also be required to complete Part 1: The Soulmate Within 3-month course and Part 3: Sex, Relationship, Intimacy: The Theory & Practice of Conscious Sexuality 3-month course)

Please note that this course is also entirely suitable for individual and personal development motivations only.

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  • Two live teaching sessions per module/month (90-120 minute teaching + Q/A calls on alternate Thursdays @ 10am PDT / 6pm BST / 7pm SAST)

  • For each module a PDF in written format for those of you who prefer to learn through reading and in audio format for those of you who prefer to learn by listening

  • (3) 90-minute "Study Hall" style review calls (one every three months)

  • Homework Assignments and supplementary materials with reflection questions

  • Access to a course website portal to retrieve all materials and a closed course forum to share assignments and reflections

  • Facebook group to share and explore with fellow participants

  • Supplementary bonus teaching sessions with guest teachers (see details above)

  • A copy of Shakti Malan's ebook: Basic Sexual Shadow Work

  • A Student WhatsApp Group for support and sharing (optional participation)

  • (Optional) Successful completion of this course fulfills 1 of 4 required Parts of our Totality Therapy Training Curriculum

    More details about our Totality Therapy training and certification available HERE.

** All live calls will take place on Thursdays at 10am PT and will last 90 - 120 minutes. There will be a time change in November due to daylight savings seasonal time change in the United States and other areas.  We will communicate about this far in advance to adjust the call times accordingly.  Calls will be recorded and uploaded to the course website should you be able to attend a live session.



The dates for all of our teaching calls are as follows:

Module 1 - EXPLORING SEXUAL SHADOW & DESIRE: 14 April 2022 & 28 April 2022

Module 2 - YOUTH, INNOCENCE AND VIRGINITY: 12 May 2022 & 26 May 2022

Module 3 - THE LAW OF DUALITY: 9 June 2022 & 23 June 2022

~Study Hall Review Call - Saturday 25 June 2022~

Module 4 - FROZEN IN THE ACT: 14 July 2022 & 28 July 2022

Module 5 - DANCING WITH THE DEAD: 11 August 2022 & 25 August 2022

Module 6 - POWER OF THREE: 15 September 2022 & 29 September 2022

~Study Hall Review Call - Saturday 1 October 2022~

Module 7 - DOMINATION CAN BE SUBTLE: 13 October 2022 & 27 October 2022

Module 8 - WILD, PUBLIC & NOT-SO-PUBLIC: 10 November 2022 & 24 November 2022

Module 9 - RELEASING SEXUAL TRAUMA: 15 December 2022 & 29 December 2022

~ Final Course Review and Wrap-up - Saturday 7 January 2023 ~

Teaching PDF Release Date:

The teaching PDF & audio recording for each module will be posted to the course forum on the 1st day of each month



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Claire Rumore

Claire was raised Catholic and attended Catholic school for many years. She grew up in a sexually repressed and confusing culture in the southern region of the United States. Abstinence until marriage was the expectation and "sex makes you feel guilty" was the attitude. Though at the time she felt enveloped by hypocrisy and confusion, this set of conservative circumstances proved to be blessing by later inspiring her to become a student of human sexuality and gender studies.

Bringing over 15 year’s worth of experience with sexual and somatic education alongside shamanic and Tantric training, Claire works as a coach, counselor, mentor, confidant and teacher of sexuality and spirituality. She has formal training in life coaching from San Francisco State University plus somatic psychotherapy through the Hakomi Institute of California, and is a certified Soul Coach trained by internationally renowned teacher Denise Linn. She is also a certified sex educator through the San Francisco Sex Information initiative, a long time student and mentee of the late Shakti Malan, a Reiki Master, a CMT, and a pagan Priestess-in-training.

Learn more about Claire's work here


Rhianne van der Linde

Participating in the first 18-month Online Totality Therapy Training offered by Shakti Malan in 2012 was a profoundly transformative period in my life. This ‘work’ opened me up to the vastness of Being by confronting me with every belief I've ever held about myself, about the ‘other’ and about the world I live in. My reality, consensual reality… what is the Truth of Reality?

These questions turned me inside, outside, upside down…presenting a rare opportunity to investigate who I really am beyond right and wrong, beyond gender stereotypes and ancestral expectations. During the last 12 years or so, I've been exploring my sexuality and its expression outside of the usual definition of ‘relationship’. What does that look like for me? What is my desire,? Where is my attraction?  And, so here I am, following my Bliss, taking responsibility for everything that arises in the field of my experience and deeply knowing that it is the only way to live a truly human life...

Truth as emptiness and Truth as embodiment - as consciousness expressing in form, in beautiful bodies of love...it is this language of the heart, this feminine language of embodiment & feeling that I am most interested in learning and sharing.

Learn more about Rhianne's work here 

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Lisa Grace

Lisa has spent the last two decades gathering tools to support humans in being fully embodied, expressed, and able to stay present with the truth of What Is.
With a degree in Performing Arts and Psychology, she has since traversed BDSM (bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, sadism/masochism otherwise known as "kink"), the extreme non-violence of mindfulness based Hakomi Therapy, Advait Tantra (non-duality and the expansive liberation of sexual energy as universal consciousness), and is a Master Practitioner of Transformational NLP (neuro-linguistic programming). Lisa’s work is about getting real with all the internal polarities (such as masculine and feminine identification, desire and fear, guilt and innocence) that motivate pursuits and avoidances, creating grasping, shame, and fear- and finding the full power and authenticity hiding in the shadows. She is especially passionate about furthering conversations around gender and the queering of Tantra.
Learn more about Lisa's work here

Tiffany Stone

Tiffany has a passion for psychological processes, depth facilitation, process work and shadow work integration specializing in facilitating deep and insightful inner work dialogues using a practice to access our inner relationship dynamics through reflections in our external relating. She takes a no-nonsense approach in the seeking of radical clarity through honesty and often asking uncomfortable questions.

After growing up in a conservative religious environment, Tiffany married young and followed what she thought was "the right thing to do". After breaking through her illusions she embarked on a life-altering journey of self-discovery which has taken her through many varied terrains from tantric explorations to shamanic practices to training in ancestral lineages through family constellations work. She now specializes in the dissolution of relationships while staying consciously present to your own inner relationship. She does this through her work as a Divorce Mediator and Coach, supporting people consciously release without becoming a victim of their external circumstances.

Learn more about her work at www.tiffanystone.co.za



Register for the course for either a discounted once-off fee of $1300 or an easy monthly payment plan of $149 for 10 months.

A currency related price of ZAR 18 000 (for one-time payment) is available for South Africans paying by EFT.

Please email rhianne@shaktishiva.academy for further details

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Want more support?

There is the option to join the course with the addition of either 4 or 9 personal 1:1 sessions where you can unfold your discoveries with one of our facilitators.

Choose to have sessions with each of them and benefit from their unique insights to your personal aspects, or choose one to hold your hand through the whole process, leveraging off following the threads of your desire and patterning.

Both options have a once-off payment option or 10-month payment plan.

  • Course One-Time + 4 x 1:1 Sessions - $1700
  • Course Payment Plan with 4 x 1:1 Sessions - $189/month for 10 months
  • Course One-Time + 9 x 1:1 Sessions - $2200
  • Course Payment plan with 9 x 1:1 Sessions - $239/month for 10 months


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  • Do I need a partner to do this work?

    No, this course is designed to be a personal journey, tapping into your own personal desires, fantasies and inner discoveries. For those who are in partnerships you may find that this will bring a greater dimension to your relating and intimacy with one another. 

  • I can't attend the coaching sessions live - what now?

    Not a problem – sessions are recorded and will be available within 24 hours so you can download and listen to them at your own convenience. 

  • What about confidentiality?

    Your journey will remain confidential. If you wish to share on the course website or private Facebook group, there are confidentiality agreements in place there. Nevertheless, please only share to the level you are comfortable to share.

  • What if I need more support?

    If you find you require additional support aside from the group coaching sessions provided with this course, then you are welcome to approach any of the facilitators and book private sessions. These sessions are booked and paid separately and negotiated between you and the facilitator in their private capacity. 

  • Do I have to finish the course in a certain time period?

    No. Because you are able to download all the materials, you can work through them at your own pace. You will have access to the community website for one full year so that you can continue to interact and learn with the course participants even after you have completed your sessions. 

  • Does the course require specific knowledge or experience?

    No. In fact, sometimes the less you know, the better it is – this opens you to beginner’s mind and to meeting the material in a fresh way.

  • Do you provide refunds?

    Withdrawal from the course is only possible during the first month of Module 1. Should you decide to withdraw, your future payments will be cancelled however no refunds will be provided. After 31 July 2020, de-registration is no longer permitted. If you find yourself unable to keep up with the course then no problem: You will have access to the course for one full year and can also retake the course when it is offered in the future at 50% of the course fee. All materials are also downloadable for you to work through at your own pace.

  • Terms & Conditions

    You can read our full terms & conditions here


We know there will definitely be questions and challenges arising all along the way, so to get the most out of this course, you need not only training, but ongoing support and a deep connection with others on the same path. A powerful learning community for your growth.
When you register for Sexual Shadow Work Course you’ll become part of an inspired, vibrant global learning community of individuals just like you who are seeking to connect with like-minded men and women. You’ll be engaging with the materials provided, and also with your fellow students from around the world through a private community website created exclusively for the participants in this course.