You’re a smart, capable human who’s usually good at pretty much everything you put your mind to. 

Whether you are at the start of your journey or far along the path of discovering your sexual self, there is always more to learn.

You’ve found that some of your experiences have helped, while others seem to trigger the same or new challenges. (Agh!)

Maybe, along the way you’ve tried one night stands, worn provocative lingerie, used high-tech sex toys, intentionally scheduled date nights with your sweetie, watched every kind porn imaginable, and have read all the self-help books you could find…

But the results don’t last and you know you’re not getting to the root of the issue (because you’ve only been staying on the surface!).

And this is what you’ve been left with:

  • You feel disconnected from your body and can’t stop judging your physical appearance, imagining no one could ever love you or find you attractive.
  • You find it really, really hard to get over bad sexual experiences in your past and you’re worried you never will.
  • You see patterns repeat again and again in your intimate relating, and you wish for a different result but just keep doing the same things over and over. Rinse, repeat.
  • You don’t know what you want or like sexually.
  • Or maybe you DO know what you want but don’t know how to ask for it.


    • Have a clear, loving, authentic relationship with your sexual self as well as the sexual selves of others?
    • Feel confident taking radical responsibility for your life - both socially and sexually? 
    • Become more of who you are and really love that person fully? 
    • Live and love fully from the present, no longer repeating -over and over- what you experienced in the past.
    • Understand why your body and brain react the way they do and feel totally at peace with those reactions, plus know how to pilot new reactions and experiences?

Daren Howarth, Brighton, UK

"Sexual Shadow Work is powerful stuff to be doing. I found myself together with a group of seekers on an incredible journey that was so well held by facilitators with deep personal experience. It was an honour to participate in and witness all the things we explored on our journey together. The modules of this 9 month course took us into deep places, and explored aspects that are vital to the rapid shift in consciousness that we need right now on the earth. There are so many layers to this Sexual Shadow Work and so many possible benefits. Do not hesitate at all if this work is calling you…” 

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It’s our in-depth, 9-month flagship program that will help you build a clearer, more authentic relationship with your erotic and sexual self. 

We will help you move past old hang ups and traumas - not by ignoring or mantra-ing your way out of them, but by understanding where they come from and why.

And we do all this in a way that’s playful, loving, and practical. Yes, we’ll talk about sexual fantasies, edgy role plays, and taboos galore. And we’ll also teach you grounded, practical, methods and tools you can start using immmediately.

We know that working through issues around sexuality can be triggering and overwhelming. So we’ve worked hard to create an engaging, supportive program that meets you where you are - regardless of your sexual history, busy schedule or relationship status.

This work is important and sometimes hard. We’ve done our best to make sure it’s fun, too. 


    • 9 Monthly lessons in both written and audio formats to suit your learning style
    • 2 Live teaching sessions per month (18 total) + group Q & A 
    • 3 “Study hall”-style sessions for accountability and community
    • 3 Bonus teaching sessions with skilled experts
    • All of our teaching happens within Mighty Networks, a safe, private learning platform; and our live calls will happen on Zoom. In these places we can have lively conversations, learn from each other, and ask questions in total privacy.

Jan Bull, Toronto, Canada


"Since taking this course, things have shifted so much that I am now even willing to consider myself a sexual being and I am no longer ashamed to speak of sexuality. I can speak into this area with my patients and I have written blogs now that speak into this area which I never would have been able to do previously."


MODULE 1 // April:
Exploring Sexual Shadow + Desire

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  • Learn 5 reasons why you should embrace your desire (and what happens when you do)
  • Understand why (and how) to engage your sexual fantasies fully
  • Learn to look at your desire with equanimity and come to see why your desire isn’t unholy

MODULE 2 // May:
Youth, Innocence, and Virginity

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  • Discover how to move from seeking fulfillment based on someone/something outside of yourself to finding it within yourself first 
  • Learn how to hold sensations in awareness, without judging them or rushing through them
  • Train yourself to lean into your innocence and your beginner’s mind

MODULE 3 // June:
Law of Duality

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  • Learn what traps you in the see-saw of desire and fear
  • Understand why you attract the same people and events over and over, and learn how to break the cycle
  • Master the art of “polarity processing,” a tool that will help you transform + integrate unconscious thoughts, desires, and repulsions

MODULE 4 // July:
Frozen In The Act

  • Analyze your archetypal fears (and realize you’re not alone in having them)
  • Investigate ways in which your fears of being shamed or embarrassed affect your sexual experiences
  • Cultivate your “Lion’s Roar” - your ability to find inner peace in the face of any situation

MODULE 5 // August:
Dancing With The Dead

  • Understand better some of the ancestral origins of your sexual challenges
  • Free yourself from unconscious, inherited beliefs about intimacy
  • Come to realize how heavily your relationships, addictions, compulsions, behaviours, actions and decisions have been influenced by your conditioning 
  • Learn tools to create your own erotic experiences based in your truth

MODULE 6 // September:
Power Of Three

  • Understand the victim + perpetrator + rescuer triangle and how it applies to our sexual lives
  • Learn the 8 ways to free yourself from getting hooked by “drama”
  • Do the honest self-reflection on how you sabotage yourself by identifying as the victim in a situation

MODULE 7 // October:
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  • Explore the subtle yet potent aspects of power and control within eroticism
  • Examine conscious and unconscious power dynamics, submission vs. control and bondage
  • 3 exercises to release anger safely and restore balance to your emotional energy

MODULE 8 // November:
Wild, Public, and Not-So-Public

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  • Unpack erotic fantasies that break taboos - threesomes, group + public sex, extramarital sex, and wilderness fantasies
  • Learn how to release shame around our fantasies
  • Allow yourself to love who you fully are and trust what you truly desire

MODULE 9 // December:
Releasing Sexual Trauma

  • Understand how sexual trauma is stored in the unconscious + how it becomes conscious
  • Develop a better relationship with your body + learn to trust your nervous system
  • 4 practices to find your conscious “yes” and empowered “no”


  • Does the course require specific knowledge or experience?

    No. In fact, sometimes the less you know, the better it is – this opens you to beginner’s mind and to meeting the material in a fresh way.

  • What if this is too intense or advanced for me?

    We’ve used our extensive training and experience to make this course emotionally digestible and accessible. And you’ll have lifetime access to the course material, so if you get busy or you find a specific module a bit too much to take on - you can always return to it later.

  • What is your refund policy?

    Withdrawal from the course is possible during Module 1. Should you decide to withdraw, your future payments will be canceled; no refunds will be provided. After 30 April 2022, de-registration is no longer permitted. If you find yourself unable to keep up with the course, you can download all the material onto your own device(s) and complete it at your own pace. 

  • Do I need a partner to do this work?

    No, this course is designed to be a personal journey, tapping into your own personal desires, fantasies and inner discoveries. For those who are in partnerships you may find that this will bring a greater dimension to your relating and intimacy with one another. 

  • Will this program be helpful if I currently don’t have a partner?

    Absolutely! This program is designed to be a personal journey tapping into your personal desires, fantasies and inner discoveries. If you are in partnership, you may find that our program will bring a greater depth to your relating and intimacy with one another.

  • I can't attend the coaching sessions live - what now?

    Not a problem – sessions are recorded and will be available within 24 hours so you can download and listen to them at your own convenience. 

  • Discussing this stuff is so uncomfortable and vulnerable. I don’t know if I can talk about it with strangers!

    Most people actually find it easier to talk about sexuality and intimacy with strangers - especially a group of strangers who are like-minded and in the same boat.

    We, the 4 facilitators of this course, have been knee deep in this material for a combined total of 40+ years as students, hands-on healers, sex, love and intimacy counselors, coaches, and beyond. We promise, there is nothing you can tell us we haven’t heard before, and we’ve hand-picked Mighty Networks as our teaching platform because its privacy policies are air tight.❤️

  • Is this program going to help me have more sex?

    Maybe! Much more important than that, this program will help you do the deep, often-avoided work of moving through past sexual trauma, releasing shame and guilt, understanding your desires, and becoming more of who you are.

    Maybe that leads to more sex, and maybe it leads to more inner peace, happier relationships, or radical self-acceptance. We desire all of that for you!

  • What if I need more support?

    If you’d like more support beyond the group coaching sessions provided, you’re welcome to book private sessions with any of the facilitators. 1:1 sessions are booked and paid separately and negotiated between you and the facilitator.

  • Do I have to finish the course in a certain time period?

    Nope! All the program materials are downloadable, so you can work through them at your own pace.

  • Terms and Conditions

    You can read our full terms & conditions here.


Claire Rumore

Claire grew up Catholic in the conversative southern region of the United States; sex education was abstinence-only and riddled with guilt and shame. Because of her own healing process, Claire is uniquely well-qualified to help students work through societal expectations and shame around sex.

She’s a certified Erotic Blueprints coach, sex educator, somatic practitioner, and a long time student and mentee of the late Shakti Malan.

Learn more about Claire's work HERE

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Lisa Grace

Lisa has spent the last two decades gathering tools to support humans in being fully embodied, expressed, and able to stay present with the truth of What Is. Her work helps clients navigate the internal polarities (masculine and feminine identification, desire and fear, guilt and innocence) that motivate pursuits and avoidances

She has a degree in Performing Arts and Psychology and has worked in BDSM, Hakomi Therapy, Advait Tantra, and is a Master Practitioner of Transformational NLP (neuro-linguistic programming).

Rhianne van der Linde

Rhianne’s introduction to this work began in 2007 when her life imploded with a layoff and a breakup. She saw a tiny advertisement in the back of a wellness publication: “Uncoiling The Snake: A women’s retreat with Shakti Malan,” and her life changed forever.

Rhianne managed all of Shakti’s in-person workshops and retreats from 2010 until her death in 2017. She is trained in breathwork, dreamwork, embodiment and somatic practices. 

Learn more about Rhianne's work HERE


Stephen Tredrea

As a shy teen with low self-esteem Stephen had big questions about exploring sexuality, gender, and relationships that did not fit the apparent narrative and were not being openly discussed. These unanswered questions led to a decade of destructive and abusive experiences, which led him to the work of Shakti Malan.

Stephen’s facilitation work draws on storytelling, counseling and somatic experience. He is currently studying for a degree in Psychology and Communication.

BONUSES + GUEST TEACHERS By being part of this course, you’ll receive these bonuses and bonus classes:



CONSCIOUS BDSM : A Talk By Shakti Shiva Academy Founder Shakti Malan

This 2-hour talk breaks down the deeper emotional and existential components of kink and BDSM-based sexual fantasies as well as how to explore and integrate them mindfully. Shakti shares the depth of her perspectives and experiences helping others unpack their kinky erotic responses, mining for the gold that these fantasies and desires possess.




FREE E-BOOK : Basic Sexual Shadow Work by Shakti Malan

An introduction to the fundamentals of sexual shadow integration work, this book walks the reader through a basic understanding of what the 9-month SexualShadow Integration Work course covers.






Using Existential Kink To Access Desire and Aliveness
Guest Teacher Sheena Witter //

If you’ve ever “numbed out” by over-scrolling, over-Netflixing, over-drinking, or dissociating, this bonus class is for you. Numbness protects us - not just from the difficult things, but also from the truly good and beautiful, heart-stopping aliveness and connectedness we crave. There is immense power available to you when you integrate and embrace ALL of who you are. Existential Kink, created by Carolyn Elliott, is a shadow integration process that focuses on radically approving of and getting off on all the parts of ourselves we have shamed and made "dirty, bad, wrong"


Sheena Witter
Sheena Whitter is an Existential Kink Coach trained by Carolyn Elliott who helps others come into a relationship with their Numbness through a blend of Existential Kink, Focusing, and Somatic embodiment so they can access their desire, turn-on and ability to change their lives.



Exploring Our Most Shameful Sexual Fantasies
Guest Teacher Marc Peridis // 

Exploring our most shameful sexual fantasies can often lead to a process of radical transformation. What gets us wet, hard, and excited, will inevitably offer us a valuable insight into who we are and the type of nourishment we are seeking. Marc will create a safe space for fantasies to be observed, held, and explored. You will also gain the tools and insights needed to continue this rich exploration on your own.



Marc Peridis
Based in a small coastal town outside of Barcelona, Marc is a Canadian-born facilitator who has been working with tantra and spirituality since 2010. He is also a mystery school initiate and guide; initiated into the mysteries in 2012 and was initiated as a shaman in 2014. He has completed the 20 levels of the path of the sexual shaman training, By Arizona-Based sexual Shaman Kenneth Ray Stubbs who has been his mentor since 2016.

Learn more about Marc HERE!


Playing With the Devil
Guest Teacher Master Hines // 

Exploring kinky activities can be a fun, very pleasurable way to connect and deepen intimacy. But there can be physical as well as psychological and emotional risks involved that should be taken into consideration. This class will discuss potential risks, warning signs and red flags as well as ways to minimize them so that consenting adults can safely explore their kinky fantasies.



Master Hines
San Francisco Bay Area based BDSM Educator and Professional Dominant, Master Hines has been actively participating in and shaping the BDSM community in the United States since 1992. Core to Master Hines’ BDSM philosophy is spirituality through power exchange. His technique and approach to SM puts heavy emphasis on the spiritual connection between Top and Bottom. His play ranges from sensual to sadistic, and incorporates many styles, toys and fetishes. His many years of experience and expertise have taught him how to navigate the vast and beautiful adult playground that is Kink. 

Learn more about Master Hines HERE!