Fall in Love with Your Inner Self and Transform Your Outer Relationships For Good A 3-month online course to discover how to fall deeply and wildly in love with yourself first so that your relationships can be catalyzed into their evolutionary potential.

You're invited to explore the "Soulmate Within" course.

Receive the first module of the course for FREE by subscribing here.

You'll become acquainted with the language and concepts used in the course.

In our culture, the myth of the Soulmate runs strong – the Soulmate being that one person you long for, who will meet the requirements of your soul, your sex, and your heart perfectly.  And yes, there is a soulmate for you. But Mr or Ms Right is not out there. Rather, that Being is already here ...inside you!!

Inside every human being, regardless of our biology, chosen gender role or personal identity, we have both Masculine (Alpha, Yang, Active principle) and Feminine (Omega, Yin, Receptive principle) aspects. If one aspect is dominant in us, we unconsciously project the opposite out onto others.

Our quest is that of the ancient Tantric masters: to get to know both our inner Masculine and Feminine aspects, and to bring them together in unity - into a personal Hieros Gamos sacred marriage.

It is time for the True Lovers to meet themselves in your life, in a passionate embrace and endless discovery.

You know you deeply desire this.
You've wanted it for a very long time.  Actually, it's your deepest longing... and now is the time to have it. As you embrace and cultivate this inner love affair, your outer relationship life miraculously manifests this love.  In unforeseeable ways.

It’s time to wake up and return home to yourself – to pull back your projections and expectations and take a good look inside to welcome who is there.


You already have all the answers you need - they reside within you.

The seed of this great love lives within you. You just have to know how to look. You have inside of you the spark of a great Alpha presence, the essence of deep Omega receptivity.  By becoming intimate with these inner aspects, you can grow to love beyond your personal needs and expectations, and live a wondrous, majestic, and sexy life.

Once any of us have truly returned to ourselves in great love, we can show up in partnership and open the doors to rapid mutual evolution, radical intimacy and cosmic sexuality.  This is the teaching of our age and the grand lesson of this course.

All Great Love Begins Within!

We invite you to immerse yourself in 3 months of practice, principles and technologies that can radically transform your inner and outer relationship life.


  • Get to meet, own and pull back your projections of others
  • Meet the many faces and dimensions of your inner Masculine (Alpha) and Feminine (Omega) energetic essences (a.k.a. your Inner Beloveds)
  • Learn how to face your unconscious relationship heros and villains in a fun and playful way
  • Discover how accurately and precisely the partners in your life mirror the relationship dynamics of your Inner Beloveds 
  • Learn how to have powerful, real conversations between your Inner Beloveds
  • Receive expert guidance on how to overcome hurdles in the deepening of this love affair
  • Become grounded in how to take your intimate life to the next level through doing the inner work

To attract that awesome, juicy lover into your life – first, you must fall deeply in love with yourself!

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Join a movement of human beings dedicated to waking up their highest relationship potential.

Meet your inner Soulmate and evolve that relationship to its greatest and highest current expression… so that your outer relationship can reflect this deep inner love affair.

It’s totally worth it to dive in and do the work...


Artwork by Muhammed Salah



In this first module, we will set the stage for a powerful journey ahead.  Our initial aim is to offer you a clear and layered understanding of what the Masculine (Alpha, Yang) and Feminine (Omega, Yin) energetic archetypes are as they relate to this course, how these archetypes express inside you, and how they can enter into a phenomenal, juicy love affair with each other. We will acquaint you with the three levels of their development - the unconscious, the conscious and the deep - and how they exist in you. Thus the stage will be set for the greater depths of the modules to follow.




During this module, we will engage a powerful practice to pull back our projections from others allowing us to deeply connect with all aspects of ourselves, also known as our Totality. We will develop our Witness capacity and learn to "stalk" ourselves in order to understand the stereotypes, polarities and projections we harbor. We will discover how our unconscious beliefs about our gender (however we identify) are created through the conditioning passed down to us by our culture and family.  We will reclaim our power to step into our own authentic creations and expressions. 

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In this module, we will perform a hilariously funny and revealing exercise in which we explore your internal gender caricatures. Caricatures are a personal version of stereotypes that live in our unconscious. These unconscious caricatures have an uncanny ability to undermine our personal relationship lives until they are seen and integrated. We will also practice a powerful and ancient Buddhist practice where we will develop what is known as the “Four Immeasureables”: sympathetic joy; loving kindness; compassion and equanimity.




During this module, we will explore the qualities of the Conscious Masculine inner aspect and how these qualities are currently expressing (or not) in our lives. We will bring clarity and understanding to our current Will and how it is possibly divided. We will utilize a powerful practice to bring integration between our unconscious and conscious wills so that we are in line with our Divine Will.

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During this module, we will expand into the realm of the Conscious Feminine Inner Aspect and will explore the deep bliss that this aspect of ourselves offers. We will explore the realm of Relationship and perform a profound practice where we get to experience the state of relationship between our Inner Beloveds and gain understanding about the dynamics of our external relationships and how they are a reflection of this inner relationship.

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In this final module, we will bring all the pieces together.  First is learning the qualities of the Deep or Sacred Masculine inner aspect and the Deep, Sacred Feminine inner aspect. We will explore principles for opening to this dimension in our inner and outer relationship lives.  And finally, we will engage with plenty of somatic and experiential practices to drop into the deepest compassion and love for ourselves in our Totality.  


Jenni California

Jenni California

"I am deeply moved by this course. it is refining my understanding and uncovering so many blindspots rooted in fear. I am repeatedly brought to tears, witnessing the transmission of Shakti and her teachings pour through you and Claire. Thank you dear for your journey and unfolding. For holding it with such accuracy, integrity and authenticity."

Lynette South Africa

Lynette South Africa

"Practical, engaging and delightful. I would recommend it as the best and most intimate gift to self. I was completely numb to my inner masculine and feminine and on automatic pilot. Since taking this course I am much more aware how my inner world reflects outwards."

Paul Cape Town

Paul Cape Town

Thank you Shakti for your transmission and outstanding translation of this ancient body of work found in your Soulmate Within offering. I find that it gives me clear and immediate access to an old wisdom available to us all – but it is rarely spoken about and even less frequently so eloquently taught. Although it began as a concept – it quickly and effortlessly transformed into a grounded and almost mystical path – spontaneously inviting me to translate myself towards my next expression of becoming. Very soon I developed a strong familiarity with the essence of the offering and could put its wisdom to work and so bring its teachings to life.

It has become a core resource providing clues to my own ongoing unknotting and so to any sincere seeker – I recommend this body of work most highly - not only as a wise and ancient translation of self but also as a potent accelerator and ally for the Self-Becoming.

Years later, I continue to draw from the teachings of this course - as I deepen my own integration, in relating with my beloved as well as in the therapy space with clients."

Tarisha New Zealand

Tarisha New Zealand

"I was going through a painful separation and trying to make sense out of it. This course really helped me to discover what's true for me and harvest the lessons of that relationship. I'm at peace now and can really appreciate the gifts that relationship and it's breakup brought to me.  Seeing all my projections and stepping out of a right/wrong dynamic. Accepting my polarities and stepping back into my centre. Letting go of my judgements of both myself and others, and ultimately a deeper acceptance and friendship with myself."

Naomi United Kingdom

Naomi United Kingdom

"This course is hands down the best online course I've ever done. Prior to taking this course, I had very little sense of my inner masculine, nor of the structure of the ego, made up of many caricatures. This knowledge and the attitude of playfulness was very useful in relating to myself and to others. Through the extraordinary awakening to my inner masculine, I found a sense of wholeness that I have never experienced before. I wholeheartedly recommend this course to anyone who has a desire to meet themself and others from a place of expanded awareness and loving compassion."

Astrid South Africa

Astrid South Africa

"I bow to my inner wisdom for leading me to this course, and receive all of its gifts with the deepest gratitude and appreciation.  I would invite anyone seeking a sense of fulfillment, or needing to answer a deep yearning and longing in their hearts for love and intimacy to do this course. Before the course I felt isolated from others - and although I had a deep desire to connect with people, I didn't know how to do that with ease. So I would pretend to be OK when interacting with others - pretend to be confident. Always present was a deep-down feeling of tension in myself. Since doing the course my social life has improved.  I'm able to meet with others with confidence and very little judgement about them or myself.  Because of the processes we used during SMW, I have cultivated much more compassion for myself and others - knowing we are all on a human journey meeting with the same/similar challenges. I am loving, kind, patient and gentle with myself in a way that I wasn't before the course - and by extension, I am becoming more so with others."

Carla  Seattle

Carla Seattle

“I would say that the tools you gain in this course can be used intentionally for the rest of your life. I know I haven't yet exhausted them! I feel more confident about staying with my deepest heart and not compromising that. This is a course that will support growth, change and awareness in your personal life, but as importantly, in your spiritual life, and knowing the two as one in our global community. Whether you are in an intimate relationship with another person, or wanting change or support for community relationships or your connection with the Divine--dive in! I don't know how to describe the value--certainly far beyond the actual dollars I paid for the course. It is an invaluable course, quite intimate and deep for a long-distance course. I experienced the other course participants whose voices I heard to be willing to explore very vulnerable material. I truly appreciate the honesty and openness of all that was shared."

Derek California

Derek California

“Once in awhile, you learn something that plants a seed that, if cared for, continues to bear fruit throughout your lifetime. The "Soulmate Within" course has given me an honest and, frankly, beautiful framework that has become a foundational support for balancing my life. This has been one of the most supportive gifts I've ever received. In this time when it has become more difficult to maintain balance and perspective, I find myself much more able to navigate this world with integrity and clearer understanding of my role in my own life and relationships.

Elisabeth Austria

Elisabeth Austria

"I would definitely recommend this course to understand the dynamics and unconscious patterns within us that we project onto our partners in daily life. I now have a deeper understanding of my inner masculine and feminine aspects, realized the wounds in the ancestral line of my feminine side which has activated a new consciousnesses in my outer relationships and a deep transformational process inside and outside. The value of SMW is that you really can work with the materials, even after the course is completed, you can repeat the exercises, watch the videos and read the materials to support your ongoing growing process in this theme."

Katalin London

Katalin London

I’ve been in many other courses and online groups and have never felt so safe and held as here. There’s something truly magical about this group and course, the transformation ripples out into all areas of life. I can see my friendships deepening and I credit this incredible space for it. Thank you, thank you, thank you!”


The dates for all of our Teaching, Bonus and Study Hall calls are as follows:


• Module 1 - HELLO SOULMATE! - MEETING YOUR INNER BELOVEDS: Thursday 6 January 2022 

• Bonus Call with Guest Teacher Pri Bertucci: Saturday 15 January 2022


• Study Hall Review Call: Saturday 29 January 2022


• Bonus Call with Guest Teacher Patricia Albere: Sunday 6 February 2022


• Study Hall Review Call: Saturday 26 February 2022



• Bonus Call with Guest Teacher Paul Abro: Saturday 19 March 2022

• Final Course Review and Wrap-up: Saturday 26 March 2022

Teaching PDF & Audio Recording Release Dates:

• Teaching PDF’s & Audio Recordings for each module will be posted to the course forum on the 1st & 14th day of each month (Jan, Feb, Mar)


  • 6 Teaching Modules in pdf written format, for those of you who prefer to learn through reading, and in audio format, for those of you who prefer to learn by listening.

  • 1 live 90-120 minute teaching + Q/A session per module on alternate Thursdays @ 10am PT / 1pm ET / 6pm UK / 8pm CAT(Note: there will be daylight savings timezone changes towards the end of the course. Classes will remain 10am PST throughout. Reminder emails with the correct time will be sent 24 hours and 1 hour before classes)

  • (3) 90-minute "Study Hall" style review calls (one per month)

  • ★BONUS★: 3 Live Bonus Classes led by guest teachers who are leaders in the field of conscious sexuality, relationships and intimacy on the path of awakening. (Details of these can be found below)

  • ★BONUS★: A copy of Shakti Malan's ebook: Meeting your Inner Soulmate

  • A selection of practice and case-study videos to demonstrate some of the experiential practices from this course. 

  • A selection of guide-along audio meditations to support you to connect to both your divine masculine and divine feminine principles.

  • Access to a course website to retrieve all materials and access to our exclusive course community forum to engage with your fellow students and share your assignments, reflections and questions

  • Homework Assignments and supplementary materials with reflection questions

  • Private Facebook group to share and explore with fellow participants (optional participation)

  • A Student WhatsApp Group for support and sharing (optional participation)

  • (Optional) Successful completion of this course fulfills 1 of 4 required Parts for our Totality Therapy Training Curriculum. More details about our Totality Therapy Training and certification available HERE


This work is suitable for all sincere seekers of truth, of any gender or orientation, single or partnered, gay, straight, bi-sexual, fluid - whichever way your sexuality flows. You do not need a partner to participate.


until 11:59pm PST on 15 December 2021

$395 one time payment, or

$215 x 2 monthly payments

$150 x 3 monthly payments

A currency related price of ZAR4500 (for one-time payment) is available for South Africans paying by EFT

Please email rhianne@shaktishiva.academy for further details

FULL PRICE thereafter:

Registration closes at 11:59pm PST on 5 January 2022

$495 one time payment, or

$265 x 2 monthly payments

$185 x 3 monthly payments

A currency related price of ZAR5500 (for one-time payment) is available for South Africans paying by EFT. Please email rhianne@shaktishiva.academy for further details​

Please email rhianne@shaktishiva.academy for further details




On this journey of understanding the many layers and nuances of gender and identity, each person is at a different stage of understanding. Not to mention that society is currently transforming its relationship to these topics as well. In this class you will be brought closer to the concepts, terminology and experiences of the many out-of-the-box, gender-fluid identities that exist in tandem with the identities our society currently considers “the norm.” You will also be able to update your perspective on how to understand your essence and identity, as well as embrace yourself and others, from a place of deepened awareness and appreciation.

What is most important is that you’ll learn a new language of gender and identity without fear of speaking wrongly or forgetting important points because, after all, we are all still learning!

About Pri: Originally from São Paulo, Brazil, Pri Bertucci (pronouns he/him, they/them) is a widely acclaimed non-binary social artist, author, lecturer and consultant known fondly as “The Queer Prophet.” Pri creates programs and resources that focus on diversity, equality, intersectionality and inclusion.
Learn more about Pri’s work here:

FEBRUARY BONUS CLASS with Guest Teacher Patricia Albere LOVE EVOLVES: UNIBEING, a new form of love


The background frequencies that give rise to our very existence, our sense of self,  the potentials for our lives and relationships are evolving. Most people, without knowing, tap only into weakening and waning forces of our current reality, which results in struggle and dissatisfaction. Patricia Albere will reveal how to align with these deeper patterns of existence and access the powerful evolutionary forces bringing forth new forms of love.

One of these forms of love is the union of two sovereign selves becoming One in conscious love. UNIBEING is the experience of evolutionary mutuality in a relationship which includes the simultaneous interplay of distinctness and dance of influence as it moves towards a holy fusion.

Most teachings and spiritual work is about solo-realization or individual development. Deep relationality of oneness is unusual but reveals the evolutionary potentials for being human.

Human beings generally want relationships for connection, support and intimacy. These are ranges of experience we understand. In society we don’t have a category for oneness that becomes the basis of a relationship. UNIBEING takes us beyond our current understanding of relationships and creates a new lexicon.

  • Learn about different kinds of relationships that exist at different levels and dimensions in order to extend your own potential.
  • Discover how evolution can create sacred fusion through erotic and alchemical love.
  • Find out how to come into alignment with the evolutionary forces of love.
  • Discover what characteristics are necessary to make this kind of love possible for you in your life

About Patricia: Patricia Albere is at ground zero of an evolutionary stream of spiritual awakening where we learn to go beyond individual psychology and transformation into a new space of mutual, intersubjective awakening. She is the founder of the Evolutionary Collective, originator of the Mutual Awakening Practice, an internationally known contemporary spiritual teacher and bestselling author of Evolutionary Relationships: Unleashing the Transformative Power of Mutual Awakening.

Learn more about Patricia's work here.

MARCH BONUS CLASS with Guest Teacher Paul (Abro) Abramowitz


Navigating the wisdom of the archetypal Mature Masculine as a deeply embodied state of profound awareness for self-exploration and meaningful expression in the world – Paul will, in conversation, explore opportunities and challenges facing the present day heterosexual relationship. Drawing from foundational concepts and disciplines in his new book, Sexed – Hardwired By Nature – Evolving By Choice, the conversation will be relevant, practical and current as increasing numbers of men and women awaken to grapple with new ways of imagining and being, while seeking a more evolutionary expression of relationship with self and other - far beyond the definitions and old paradigms offered up by an outdated relationship meme.

About Paul: Paul Abro was born and currently resides in Cape Town, South Africa. His circuitous route through Dental school and a sub specialty surgery from U Penn as well as a teaching Assistant professorship there - brought him full circle to fully explore what he refers to as our Humanity Sexuality Dyadic nature. A dedicated student of Shakti Malan – Paul was certified as a practitioner in Totality Therapy and went on to gain a PhD in Human Sexuality from the IASHS in San Francisco.

Yogi, songwriter, musician, and artist, Paul spent fourteen years immersed in leadership in men’s work. This together with his own life experience has led him to conclude that waking to our sexual natures and finding the extraordinary in how we spend our sexual energy and connect sexually stands as one of the most important last frontiers of human consciousness and potential.

Learn more about Paul's work here


"In my 20’s and early 30’s, I tried a range of ways to find the fulfillment in relationship that I sensed was possible. I went for really safe, secure relationships and got bored. I fell for wild, uncontained lovers and got trapped in addictive cycles. I explored whether being with a woman would make a difference and found all the dynamics of relationship still present. I tried open relationship and polyamory. I took a position against relationship. None of these stances brought me any closer to that elusive fulfillment.

Finally, I saw clearly that happiness could not come to me through another – that I had to find the inner union, the Soulmate Within.

The radical nature of this moment brought me to some clear and powerful insights. I recognized that I was out of touch with the feminine, and so I committed to finding her. I recognized that my life would never be fulfilling through outer achievement only – but that my soul had a deep longing for spiritual awakening, and that this would be my path.

I discovered that each person I fell in love with was mirroring to me an aspect of myself that I hadn’t yet fully owned. All of them – each lover I ever had – was inviting me back to myself. To meet myself as the first beloved.

This work became my dedicated focus for several years. I clearly remember a moment of looking at my reflection in the mirror and feeling so in love with myself. I realized instantly that this had everything to do with the juicy love affair that had developed between my masculine and feminine."



Based in the San Francisco Bay Area of California, Claire has been on a multi-decade journey of reclaiming connection to her sacred sexual self and living from a place of integration and authenticity.  Growing up Catholic in the southern part of the United States definitely created challenges for Claire during her younger years. However, meeting Shakti Malan in 2010 fortified this reclamation journey and empowered Claire in ways she could have never anticipated. 

Now more than a decade later Claire is a skilful guide for individuals and couples into understanding their sexuality, gender, and identity through a Tantric lens.  She has a special place in her heart for supporting members of a couple to harmonize and relate consciously as they lovingly connect with their own inner selves.

Claire has a background in human sexuality, Tantric spirituality, and sex education, as well as coaching, counseling, dance, and magical ritual.  She was a senior student of Shakti Malan from 2012-2017, has been teaching with the Shakti Shiva Academy since 2017, and stepped into co-directorship with Rhianne in March of 2020.  She's immensely honored to help carry forward the legacy of her beloved mentor, Shakti Malan, far into the future.

Learn more about Claire's work here


Lisa is a master of the practice of fully trusting and surrendering to the moment, holding that as the most terrifying, gorgeous, and powerful thing to ask of the Feminine. In a world that doesn’t always show up as trustworthy, the ferocious authenticity of the deep Feminine is the medicine needed most.  From an early age Lisa thrived in sexual experiences that are considered taboo and has continued in that pursuit ever since, formally studying human sexuality and consciousness for the last 16 years.  Life and body awareness evolved from structured study of ballet to the intensity of karate and wild freedom of Ecstatic Dance. It wasn’t until meeting Shakti in 2011 that the full self-love piece came in with permission to expand into bliss, reclaim innocence, and develop the divine dance of the inner Masculine and Feminine.  Lisa served as a Senior Student with Shakti from 2014-2017 and has since been deep in the Alpha and Omega developing practice of The Yoga of Intimacy.  A Holo Level Practitioner of Neurolinguistic Programing and trained in Hakomi Therapy, Lisa is currently pursuing a Masters of Divinity at the Pacific School of Religion.

Learn more about Lisa's work here.




The Soulmate Within course is part of our 24-month TOTALITY THERAPY PROFESSIONAL TRAINING and comprises one of four parts required for becoming a facilitator.  For those interested in participating in the professional training, this course covers the personal explorations component of your training.  It will give you the opportunity to guide your clients from a place of lived experience and compassionate understanding rather than theory alone. Learning how to facilitate this work in a professional setting takes place later in the Totality Therapy Training curriculum and comprises part 4 - The Fundamentals of Facilitation - which is the final part of the 24-month curriculum.

This course is also entirely suitable to take for personal development motivations only.


  • Do I need a partner to do this work?

    No, this course is designed to be a personal journey, tapping into your own personal desires, your individual blockages and obstacles and your personal connection with the Soulmate Within. For those who are in a partnership, you may find that this work will bring a greater dimension to your relating and intimacy with one another. For those who do not currently have a partner, you will find a greater depth of relating to your own inner beloved as you step into who you truly are in a rich fulfillment within yourself – which in turn can open the pathways for relationship to open up. You do not need a partner to participate in this course.

  • Is this course for women only?

    No, this course is open to both men and women of all ages (18+). This work is suitable for all sincere seekers of truth regardless of gender or orientation, single or partnered.  [Please note: the language in this course is of a binary nature in order to capture the essence of energetic polarity.]

  • I can't attend coaching sessions live - what now?

    Not a problem – Call recordings are available within 24 hours and are posted to the course forum, so you can download and listen to them at your own convenience.

  • Terms & Conditions

    You can read our full terms & conditions here

  • What about confidentiality?

    Your journey remains completely confidential. If you wish to share on the community website, there is a confidentiality agreement in place. Participation in the course Facebook and WhatsApp groups is entirely optional.

  • Would this course work for me if I'm not straight?

    Absolutely. This course is suitable for people of all sexual orientations: gay, straight, bi-sexual or whichever way your sexuality flows. Sexual orientation is not the focus of this material because this course is designed to open you to your unique inner masculine-feminine union (your personal soulmate within) so that you can step into who you truly are as an energetic and sexual being, with utter acceptance and fulfillment.

  • Does the course require specific knowledge or experience?

    No. In fact, sometimes, the less you know the better - this opens you to beginner's mind and to meeting the material in a fresh way.

  • Do I need good internet or internet skills to take this course?

    Only for downloading and interaction in the Q&A aspect of the live coaching calls. We will give you all the support we can – and you’ll see that, once you’re in the flow, it’s really easy.

  • How is the teaching conducted?

    The teaching content for each of the 6 modules will be delivered in both a written pdf as well as an audio recording. These will be released on 1 & 14 January; 1 & 14 February; 1 & 14 March. This allows you to immerse in the teachings at a time and place that is most convenient for you, giving you sufficient time to complete before each live group coaching call.

  • Do I have to finish the course in a certain time period?

    No. Because you're able to download all the materials, you can work through them at your own pace. You will have lifetime access to the course forum and community website so you can continue to interact and learn with the other course participants even after the course has completed.

  • Is it possible to receive a refund?

    Withdrawal from the course is only possible during the first two weeks of the course. Should you decide to withdraw, your future payments will be cancelled; however no refunds will be provided. After 14 January 2022, withdrawal is no longer permitted. If you find yourself unable to keep up with the course then no problem: You will have lifetime access to the course website and can also retake the course when it is offered in the future at 50% of the course fee. All materials are also downloadable for you to work through at your own pace.