The SoulMate Within
~ Live course starting November 2019 ~
Fall in Love with Yourself and Transform Your Outer Relationships For Good A 12 week online course to discover how to fall deeply and wildly in love with yourself first so your relationships can be catalyzed into their evolutionary potential.
In our culture, the myth of the Soulmate runs strong – the Soulmate being that one you long for, who will meet your soul, your sex and your heart perfectly. And yes, there is a soulmate for you. But Mr or Mrs Right is not out there. S/he is inside – you.
Inside every human being, regardless of our biology or sexual orientation, we have both a masculine and a feminine aspect. If one aspect is dominant in us, we unconsciously project the opposite out on others.
Our quest is that of the ancient Tantric masters: to get to know both our masculine and feminine aspects, and to bring them together in unity. It is time for the True Lovers to meet themselves in your life, in passionate embrace and endless discovery. You know you want this. And now is the time. As you embrace and cultivate this inner love affair, your outer relationship life miraculously manifests this love.
It’s time to wake up and come back to yourself – to pull back your projections and expectations and take a good look inside. You have all the answers inside. The seed of this great love lives inside you. You just have to know how to look. You have inside of you the seed of a great man, a deep woman – one who can grow to love beyond his/her needs and expectations, and live and awesome, sexy and majestic life.
Once we have truly returned to ourselves in great love, we we can show up in sexual partnership and open the doors to rapid mutual evolution, radical intimacy and cosmic sexuality.
We invite you to immerse yourself in 12 weeks of practicing principles and technologies that can radically transform your inner and outer relationship life.
IN THIS COURSE YOU WILL:
Get to meet, own and pull back your projections on to other
Meet the many faces of and dimensions your inner masculine and feminine
Learn how to face your subconscious relationship gremlins and gargoyles in a fun and playful way
Discover how accurately men and women in your life mirror your inner relationship dynamic
Learn how to have powerful, real conversations between your inner masculine and feminine
Get expert guidance on how to overcome hurdles in the deepening of this love affair
Become grounded in how to take your sex life to the next level through doing the inner work
To bring that awesome, juicy lover into your life – you must fall in love with yourself first!
Join a movement of men and women dedicated to waking up your highest relationship potential. Get to meet your inner Soulmate and evolve that relationship to its greatest current expression… so that your outer relationship can reflect that deep inner love affair that you now have in your life. It’s worth it to dive in and do the work.
SHAKTI MALAN'S PERSONAL JOURNEY: FINDING MY SOULMATE WITHIN
"In my 20’s and early 30’s, I tried a range of ways to find the fulfillment in relationship that I sensed was possible. I went for really safe, secure relationships and got bored. I fell for wild, uncontained lovers and got trapped in addictive cycles. I explored whether being with a woman would make a difference and found all the dynamics of relationship still present. I tried open relationship and polyamory. I took a position against relationship. None of these stances brought me any closer to that elusive fulfillment.
Finally, I saw clearly that happiness could not come to me through another – that I had to find the inner union, the Soulmate Within.
The radical nature of this moment brought me to some clear and powerful insights. I recognized that I was out of touch with the feminine, and committed to finding her. I recognized that for me, life would never be fulfilling through outer achievement only – but that my soul had a deep longing for spiritual awakening, and that this would be my path. Finally, I also saw clearly that happiness could not come to me through another – that I had to find the inner union, the Soulmate Within.
I discovered that each person I fell in love with was mirroring to me an aspect of myself that I hadn’t fully owned. All of them – each lover I ever had – was inviting me back to myself. To meet myself as the first beloved.
This work became my dedicated focus for several years. I remember clearly a moment of looking at myself in the mirror and feeling so in love with myself. I realized instantly that this had everything to do with the juicy love affair that had developed between my masculine and feminine."
HERE IS WHAT YOU WILL LEARN
SESSION 1: HELLO SOULMATE!
MEETING YOUR INNER MASCULINE AND FEMININE
In this first session, Shakti will give you a clear and layered understanding of what the Masculine and Feminine principles are and how they can enter into a rocking, juicy love affair with each other. I will guide you in a powerful practice to open the way for this love affair by pulling back your projections on to others.
In this session, you will discover:
- Three levels of the masculine and the feminine and how they exist in you
- How to activate and facilitate a love affair between them
- A practice to pull back your projections on to others
- A practice to meet your inner Soulmate
SESSION 2: GREMLINS AND GOLLUMS REVEALED
MEETING THE UNCONSCIOUS MASCULINE AND FEMININE
Join Shakti for a hilariously funny and revealing session in which we explore your internal gender caricatures. Caricatures are a personal version of stereotypes that live in our unconscious. Like Gollum in Lord of the Rings, these unconscious caricatures have superb ability to undermine your relationship life – until they are seen and integrated.
In this session, you will explore:
- What the unconscious masculine and feminine are
- How our unconscious gender beliefs get created through the conditioning passed down to us by culture and family
- Who the masculine and feminine caricatures are that live in your personal unconscious and are shaping your sex- and relationship life behind the scene
- A practice for integrating the polarities in the subconscious
SESSION 3: MY FIRST REAL DATE
MEETING THE CONSCIOUS FEMININE AND MASCULINE
In this session, we get to the Real Deal: Meeting the conscious masculine and feminine and learning how to cultivate these qualities in yourself. In sexual relationship and in life, the conscious masculine has developed skillful action, one pointed focus and unmoving presence. The conscious feminine steps out of being pseudo-masculine and becomes receptive, embodied and feeling.
In this session, you will learn:
- What the true essence is of the conscious masculine and feminine
- How to have a conscious conversation between your masculine and feminine using voice dialogue
- How you can use your outer relationships to help you enter deeper into this inner relationship
- A practice for developing a conscious relationship with your sexuality
SESSION 4:GETTING JUICY TOGETHER
CULTIVATING THE CONSCIOUS MASCULINE AND FEMININE
As anyone who has ever dated knows: Meeting is just the beginning – cultivating the intimacy with someone is the real challenge. The same principle applies for our inner masculine-feminine relationship.
In this session, you will explore:
- How to cultivate the conscious masculine and feminine in your life and in your sexuality
- How to deepen the conversation between your masculine and feminine
- How to work with obstacles that arise in the relationship
- A practice for accessing the real juice in your sexuality
SESSION 5: HIGH LOVE
MEETING THE DEEP FEMININE AND DEEP MASCULINE
In a true love-affair, there is no end to how deep we can dive and how high we can fly. In this session, Shakti introduces the highest, most sacred evolutionary potential of the masculine and feminine in you and in your relationship life. We will do some practices to open you to an immediate experience of the deep masculine and feminine.
In this session, you will get to know:
- Qualities of the deep or sacred masculine and feminine in your sexuality and your life in general
- Principles for opening to this dimension in your inner and outer relationship life
- A practice that gives you immediate entrance to the realization and experience of the Deep Masculine and Feminine
SESSION 6: DEEP DIVING
CULTIVATING THE INNER LOVE AFFAIR BETWEEN MASCULINE AND FEMININE
In this session, you receive:
- Guidance on deepening your inner love affair through voice dialogue work
- Counseling on working with challenges that come up as you grow
- Practices to embody the qualities of the deep masculine and the feminine in your sexuality and in your life
SESSION 7: THE UNION OF SEX AND SOUL
BRINGING THE INNER LOVE AFFAIR INTO YOUR OUTER RELATIONSHIPS
In this session, you will learn:
- How the deepening of your inner love affair is being mirrored in your outer relationship life
- What high sex is and how you can now make love in this way
- How to apply the evolutionary journey of your inner masculine and feminine to your outer relationships, whether you are single or partnered
- A practice for awakening the Deep Masculine and Feminine in a sexual relationship
WHAT PAST PARTICIPANTS ARE SAYING
“There seemed to be an inaccessible part of myself, despite many years of psychological inquiry. The masculine-feminine dialogue work with Shakti granted a unique personal access, that continues to unfold in quite extraordinary and delightful ways; initially showing me beliefs where I didn’t feel it was possible to change. I am DELIGHTED to say they have changed, and I encourage YOU to discover for yourself the transformational power of this work!”
Psychotherapist, United Kingdom
“A pioneer in the field of Human consciousness and awakening – Shakti marries her deep knowledge of Anthropology and Human Sexuality towards insights and teachings into the human condition which are forward thinking innovative and inspiring. Shakti’s teachings have allowed me to come home to a place I always knew existed but lacked the capacity to reach on my own. A Re –Pairing on the deepest level. The teachings and subtle body work practices have set in motion the expanding of a felt sense reality for me – towards a rich and tapestried life of intimacy and love making that I could not have imagined before.”
Totality Therapy Practitioner & Dentist, Cape Town
“This course created a safe and sacred space for me to know myself more deeply. Within the mystery and magic of the container that Shakti set, I had insights that profoundly impacted my soul journey… Through the exercises and Shakti's expert facilitation, I was able to re-integrate and love the disowned parts of myself, which made me more whole and more truly who I am.”
Founder of Wisdom Women, San Francisco, USA
“Before Shakti's course my heart felt blocked, my victim identity was overpowering and after a series of unhealthy relationships I had been single for 4 years. 6 months after learning these processes from Shakti, I met my beloved, a spiritual partner with whom I have dared to love with absolute truth. The Soulmate Within work remains one of the most palpably powerful processes I have ever undergone. Shakti has a gift that conveys eternal truths through practical processes that have the power to move us beyond what we have always known.”
Osteopath, Cape Town, South Africa
“I heartily recommend this course because what you will learn about about yourself through this process is nothing short of magical and miracle-generating! I've watched as I've increased in self-love and understanding that can be extended more easily to my Beloveds. I also watch my own clients blossom before my eyes as I teach them what this work has taught me.”
Intimacy Counselor, San Francisco, USA
“The Soulmate Within workshop has completely transformed the way I see myself and my relationships with others, especially with my partner.The most exciting discovery for me was to get to know my inner masculine and my inner feminine, the relationship dynamics between them and how so precisely it reflects in the outer relationships. I would definitely recommend this course to everyone, who is on the way to waking up as experiencing this beautiful relationship inside yourself is very enlightening and a great tool to support the journey.”
Event Organizer, Latvia
WHAT YOU'LL RECEIVE
7 RECORDED TEACHING SESSIONS BY SHAKTI MALAN PH.D
Recording of the live teaching sessions hosted by Shakti in 2017, her last course personally taught before her passing. These 7 Course Sessions, will take you step-by-step each week through one of the 7 Keys that unlock profound relationship with your Soulmate Within.
7+ SHORT VIDEOS OF SHAKTI DEMONSTRATING THE PRACTICES AND TECHNOLOGIES
Shakti has created 7 short videos in which she guides you into the key practices of this course. These video clips give simple, clear guidelines and also carry a transmission of teachings that open your way to this inner union. In watching the videos, you will see how Shakti facilitates the practices, and also how they impact on the men and women that she works with.
PDF TRANSCRIPTS OF EACH COURSE SESSION
ACCESS TO OUR EXCLUSIVE ONLINE COMMUNITY SITE
EXCLUSIVE COURSE BONUS AUDIO WORKSHOPS AND MATERIALS
Shakti has brought together a unique and powerful group of master teachers to supplement the core teaching sessions with additional material that will enhance your experience in the course and provide complimentary learnings to what Shakti is sharing. These bonus sessions and materials are listed here.
EBOOK: MEETING YOUR INNER SOULMATE
BY SHAKTI MALAN
Shakti has made available, in one compact e-book, the basic principles and technologies that facilitate your meeting with the Soulmate Within. The principle of this book is that our outer relationships are a mirror of the relationship between our inner masculine and feminine. We have never been taught to have a conscious relationship with our inner masculine and feminine – let alone guide them to have a conscious relationship with each other. You have all the first keys together here to start this learning.
In this e-book, Shakti will guide you:
- To meet the Masculine and Feminine in you – from the subconscious, conditioned expression you may be living to the highest possibilities of these dimensions of yourself.
- To discover basic technologies through which you can directly get to meet your masculine and feminine.
- To open the conversation for a profound love-affair with your Soulmate Within.
BONUS AUDIO WORKSHOP 1: SUSANNAH AND YA'ACOV DARLING-KAHN
BEYOND THE HONEYMOON: THE WORK IT TAKES, THE TIME IT TAKES AND THE UNIMAGINABLE HARVEST OF COMMITMENT IN LOVE AND LIFE.
A TALK ON RELATIONSHIP AS SPIRITUAL PRACTICE
Susannah and Ya’Acov Darling Khan are the founders of Movement Medicine and the Directors of The School of Movement Medicine. They have studied with healers and shamans from the Amazon to the Arctic Circle, including an 18-year apprenticeship with Gabrielle Roth.
After 30 years of not only living together but also running Movement Medicine together as a couple, Susannah and Ya’Acov reflect on the process that has resulted in their relationship being more vibrant now than ever. They share the key elements that have made all the difference in their relationship, and also talk openly about their journey of redefinition of what it means to be a man and a woman. This wide ranging talk defines committed relationship as spiritual practice, in the much wider context of putting your all into making a contribution in this time of crisis and change.
BONUS AUDIO WORKSHOP 2: ANAIYA SOPHIA AND PETE WILSON
SACRED MARRIAGE: THE ALCHEMY OF LOVE
Anaiya is a mystic, author and initiator of Sacred Marriage. Her books include: Womb Wisdom (Inner Traditions, 2011) Sacred Sexual Union (Inner Traditions, 2013), The Rose Knight (Lulu, 2014) and Sacred Relationship (Inner Traditions, 2016). Pete, Anaiya’s partner, cares passionately about his own and our reunion with our deepest truths, building ways for ourselves to live as and from that depth.
Anaiya and Pete discuss the invitation to journey into Sacred Marriage and to all the sacred warrior/midwives that carry this code. Sacred Marriage calls for every part of our being to this journey. This involves the complete transfiguration of our sexuality, not through repression or indulgence but through the ultimate refining fire of profound tenderness and worship on every level of the other. This also involves the complete opening of our sacred heart, the release of every trauma, every disappointment and every heartbreak.
BONUS AUDIO WORKSHOP 3: STUART SOVATSKY
INFINITE APPRECIATION COMMUNION
Stuart Sovatsky, PhD, has a degree in Religion from Princeton University. A couples and spiritual emergence therapist and intensive kundalini yogi for 43 years, he is also the author of Advanced Spiritual Intimacy, Your Perfect Lips and Words from the Soul.
Infinite Appreciation is the reverse of those pesky “negative pattern arguments” that go on and on and defeat many wonderful lovers. For over 40 years, Stuart has shared Infinite Appreciation Communion with thousands of people worldwide, with hundreds of marriages saved from divorce over the decades by variations of this simple meditation by opening us to Oneness states of Giving and Receiving at a Soul level of endless love-play. “Where Man and Woman Revere* One Another is the play of the Divine” (Tantra Scriptures) * read: lovers of any sexual orientation.
BONUS AUDIO WORKSHOP 4: AZRA AND SEREN BERTRAND
REBIRTHING RELATIONSHIPS: THE 5 STEPS ON THE PATH OF LOVE
Dr Azra Bertrand, MD and Seren Bertrand are founders of The Fountain of Life Grail Mystery School. As midwives of the Return of Womb Consciousness, they draw rich veins of wisdom from many traditions, and have assisted over 25,000 people to heal on a physical, emotional and spiritual level over 20 years.
There are 5 radical steps on the Path of Love – as practiced in the ancient western mystery traditions – that invite us to ‘die to our old selves’, as we step through the doorway of the Dark Mother for a psychic rebirth. Our relationships are the epicenter of this revolutionary spiritual path. When we rebirth the way we relate with each other, emotionally, sexually and spiritually, we also rebirth the world. Old thinking sees our spiritual evolution as separate, disconnected, individuated – yet a new birthing portal is opening, which reveals that all of life is a wild relational web.
TOTALITY THERAPY TRAINING
This course forms part of our longer TOTALITY THERAPY TRAINING and comprises one of the four modules required to complete this training and become a facilitator. For those interested in participating for professional training reasons, this course covers the personal explorations component of your training. I.e. Giving you the opportunity to guide your clients from a place of lived experience and compassionate understanding rather than theory alone. Training for facilitating this work will take place in a later module forming part of the Totality Therapy Training.
This course is entirely suitable for individual and personal development motivations only.
SELF STUDY PURCHASE IS AVAILABLE
The Self-Study product is available at the reduced rate of $199 once off or $75 per month for 3 months. Our next live course is estimated for Oct/Nov 2019. If you are interested to participate in the revised and updated live teaching including coaching calls then please complete the "I am Interested Form" and we will communicate with you when we next offer this course.
Register for Self Study
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Do I need a partner to do this work?
No, this course is designed to be a personal journey, tapping into your own personal desires, blocks and personal connection with the Soulmate Within. For those who are in partnerships may find that this will bring a greater dimension to your relating and intimacy with one another. For those who do not have a current partner will find a great depth of relating to your own inner beloved as you step into who you truly are in a rich fulfillment within yourself – which in turn can open the pathways for relationship to open up.
I can't attend each session live - what now?
Not a problem – sessions are available soon after so you can download them and listen to them at your own convenience.
Is this course for women only?
No, this course is open to both men and women of all ages and all orientations.
What physical abilities to I need to have to do the course?
The practices are supremely gentle. No matter what your physical limitations are, they will help you to come deeper at home in your body, and even experience less pain and discomfort.
What if I need more support, are you available for sessions?
I am no longer provide individual sessions, however I will be making myself available for group coaching Q&A sessions exclusive to course participants to share your personal questions relating to the course materials. There will also be a team of senior facilitators supporting you on the course, most of whom are available for individual follow-up work.
Would this course work for me if I'm not straight?
Absolutely. This course is ideally suited for people of all sexual orientations: gay, straight, trans, bi-sexual or whichever way your sexuality flows. This course is designed to open you to your unique inner masculine-feminine union so that you can step into who you truly are with utter acceptance and fulfillment.
Do I have to finish the course in a certain time period?
No. Because you are able to download all the materials, you can work through them at your own pace. You will have access to the community website for one full year so that you can continue to interact and learn with the course participants even after you have completed your sessions. And remember that there will be 4 follow-up sessions for continued learning and integration.
What about confidentiality?
Your journey remains completely confidential. If you wish to share on the community website, there is a confidentiality agreement in place on the site.
Do I need good internet or internet skills to do this course?
Only for downloading and interaction in the Q&A aspect of the sessions. We will give you all the support we can – and you’ll see that, once you’re in the flow, it’s really easy. Because all of the materials are downloadable, you can always ask a friend to help you download everything from the internet.
Does the course require specific knowledge or experience?
No. In fact, sometimes the less you know, the better it is – this opens you to beginner’s mind and to meeting the material in a fresh way.