Totality Therapy Training
~ A 24 MONTH ONLINE INTENSIVE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
AND PROFESSIONAL TRAINING PROGRAM ~
The Totality Therapy Training is a 24-month online intensive (taken in 4 separate parts) in which Shakti Malan provided her most comprehensive teaching and transmission on how to work with the psychological and mystical dimensions of sexuality.
The teaching is experiential and will require of you to live through every aspect that the course addresses. This program is ideal for professionals who are or who would like to work with the theme of sexuality in private practice or group work.
What qualifies us to work with others is not the certificates on our walls but the wisdom and maturity that we develop through immersing ourselves in life’s rich experience with clarity, awareness and an ever-expanding heart. It is our intention that after completing this program you will not only have a vastly expanded relationship with your own inner landscape, your sexuality and the world you live in, but also that you are richly equipped to facilitate this work for clients and students who come your way.
WHAT IS TOTALITY?
Totality refers to the whole or the sum of something. Totality Therapy is a modality that Shakti Malan developed during her lifetime to support participants in cultivating a whole or full embrace of all that life offers us – the agony and the ecstasy – and particularly as this gets revealed through our sexuality.
It is a contemporary and streamlined interpretation of the wisdom of Tantra, the ancient practice of integrating transcendent/mystical realization in all aspects of your life, including your body, your emotions, your sexuality and your relationships.
Many religions and spiritual traditions have aimed to achieve God-realization through transcending this world. We believe that every single experience we get to have in this human life is an invitation to meet, realize and embrace our Divinity. But the key is our willingness to embrace the totality of life – the bitter as much as the sweet.
THE PRINCIPLES OF TOTALITY THERAPY
FROM SUPER-MOON TO TOTAL ECLIPSE
We have been trained in our culture to be only partly alive and to not experience anything too fully or intensely. In fact, this society avoids at all costs the intensity of being truly present in this moment, with everything that it brings. Totality Therapy invites you to be alive in the full range of your human experience. If you were the moon, that would mean being as present with your experience when you become the super-moon as with the total eclipse of the moon.
Patriarchal mind has devised polarized patterns of thinking that are now deeply entrenched in our systems. We are constantly hooked into attraction-repulsion dynamics [e.g. I want to be seen like this and not like that, I am this kind of person and not that kind of person, I don’t like this about myself/you – I want (you) to be the opposite]. Whilst we are constantly see-sawing between good and bad, right and wrong, attraction and repulsion, our energy stays trapped. Freedom comes from developing a witness and cultivating the inner freedom to embrace those life experiences that you have rejected (what you have labeled as bad/undesirable), entering into them fully when they present themselves.
EMBRACING ALL DIMENSIONS OF YOUR SEXUALITY
We are blessed in today’s world with an abundance of superb therapeutic modalities, and yet so few deeply address the dynamics of sexuality. In part, this is because sexuality is such a taboo topic in our world. Sexuality is also one of the most complex aspects of our psyches because it is intricately linked with our unconscious. What happens in our sexual lives and sexual experience is so often veiled and hidden behind shame, guilt, embarrassment and a sense of failure. This is also unfortunately the case for many therapists. The Totality Therapy Training is set up to guide you in discovering the full range of your sexual experience – from hidden shadow dynamics to the light of essence that shines through your sexuality.
WHY FOCUS ON SEXUALITY?
The entire Totality Therapy Training explores life from the perspective of our sexual/intimate/relational experience. The reason for this focus is as follows:
SEXUALITY IS A GUIDE TO THE UNCONSCIOUS
The unconscious is every aspect of our lives that we haven’t fully integrated or felt. Starting with birth and throughout our lives, we have experiences that are overwhelming and too much for us to digest at the time. These often show up later in our sexuality. For instance, not being breastfed or not receiving enough mother love can lead to a sexual obsession with breasts. On a collective level, our cultural and religious beliefs and positions create patterns in the unconscious. The good/bad split in our psyches manifests in our sexuality in a myriad of ways such as the virgin/whore polarity that many women find themselves moving in, or the good husband/rebellious teenager split that men encounter. Moments not fully lived or felt can also create unconscious patterns in us, for instance, a past love affair that hasn’t been fully integrated may resurface and create unexpected sexual tension.
SEXUAL ENERGY IS LIFE FORCE
While our society has turned sex into a genital affair, Totality Therapy aims to expand your horizons so that you can experience the true nature of sexual energy – as life force itself – the power that animates all of life. This broader understanding of sexual energy requires a re-definition of what we mean by masculinity and femininity, and an inquiry into the nature of attraction – the electrical response which initiates the movement of life force.
SEXUALITY AND PRESENCE
You may be one of those lucky people who have had a sexual experience which took you so deeply into this moment that you disappeared into eternity. Such deep immersion in presence during lovemaking is likely to be a chance occurrence – until you get initiated into the meditation of lovemaking. A significant aspect of the Totality Therapy Training is immersion in Tantric lovemaking practices. You will be taught both solo and partner practices. But don’t worry – you will still be able to fully participate even if you don’t currently have a sexual partner.
A MEETING POINT OF MYSTICISM AND THERAPY
It has become a trend in spiritual circles to deny the value of therapy. One thought that this is because much of therapy has become a rationally-driven business which tends to keep clients in the identification with their story about themselves. Many spiritual seekers see therapeutic methods as slow and not resonant with the deeper levels of self-realization that they are achieving through spiritual practice.
Having said that, denying the value of therapy is a dangerous movement for spiritual seekers as it contributes to spiritual bypassing – that is, the use of spiritual practice and realization to bypass or avoid our humanity, which includes all the dimensions of our emotional and sexual lives that are held in the unconscious. Spiritual bypassing is simply a modern version of spiritual and religious movements that aim to transcend by escaping the intricacies and messiness of this human life.
What if therapy – our kind, loving and aware inquiry into the aspects of our life that have not yet been fully embraced – is a doorway into the mystery? It is clear to me that our capacity to be present with our humanity opens us to an intimate knowledge of life beyond consensual reality – beyond what we can perceive with our five senses. Totality therapy invites you into the mystery beyond what you think you can know, feel and see where there is a world waiting to be discovered – all the way into your subtle sexual body.
PROFESSIONAL TRAINING FOR PRACTITIONERS
The Totality Therapy Training program is a practitioner’s training program. It will benefit you if:
- You have an existing practice which you wish to develop and grow or
- You would like to start a practice focused on the totality therapy materials.
- You are also welcome to do this program purely for personal development reasons.
Whereas most professional training programs are mainly intellectual, this program is experiential. It is our view that practitioners are only able to assist clients with life issues that cross over into sexuality to the degree that the practitioner has lived into his/her own sexuality – both the shadow and the light of it. At the same time, this program is also deeply satisfying on an intellectual and academic level.
We will be systematically exploring all of the main themes that you may encounter in a somatic, therapeutic or spiritual inquiry around sexuality. Please note that this training is not medical/anatomy focused.
Apart from immersion in the materials and therapeutic modalities, you will also be learning how to facilitate the material covered. This will include training to facilitate both one-on-one (or couple’s) sessions as well as the facilitation of group work.
The Totality Therapy Training is not accredited with any academic institution. Clients will come to you because they can sense the depth of experience, compassion and clarity that you bring to your work as it relates to the theme of sexuality. The kind of skill & capacity you will acquire on this training is extremely rare on the planet at present.
LEVELS OF PARTICIPATION
- For your personal development only
- To add to your existent professional skill-set and/or
- To do a full apprenticeship with Shakti Shiva Academy
If you would like to do the full Totality Therapy apprenticeship (which will result in becoming certified by the Shakti Shiva Academy in this modality), you will need to complete 80% of the course assignments, attend at least one in-person Totality Therapy retreat*, and have professional mentoring sessions* with a faculty member of the Academy until we both agree that you are complete.
*Please note that the cost of these is not included in the online training program.
PART 1: SOULMATE WITHIN
NEXT LIVE COURSE - STARTS 1 JANUARY 2022
In this first part, we will be exploring a fundamental Tantric principle, which is that the masculine and feminine exist within us. The alchemy of the inner love affair requires of us to be aware of the different dimensions of the masculine and feminine that are at play in us – as mirrored by men and women in our lives. You will also get grounded in some practices that are fundamental to the work we will be doing on this training.
During this part, you will:
- develop a keen understanding of the unconscious, the conscious and the deep masculine and feminine
- learn a fun technique for processing unconscious materials that arise in relationship
- practice working with projections in relationship
- get grounded in ‘pillow talk’ – a technique that enables you to access precise information about your inner relationship from your outer relationship life
VIEW THE FULL DETAILS OF THIS PART AND REGISTER FOR THE NEXT INTAKE HERE: SOULMATE WITHIN
PART 2: SEXUAL SHADOW INTEGRATION WORK
STARTING APRIL 2022
Sexual Shadow Work addresses the dimensions of our sexuality that are held in the unconscious. What plays out in our sexuality is often the result of states, beliefs or experiences that live in our unconscious, in other words, we are not fully aware of them, and have not embraced them with awareness and love.
This part addresses, in a profound way, questions such as:
• What to do about sexual fantasy arising?
• What are affairs about?
• What if I don’t feel any sexual desire?
• How do I get free from the memory of sexual trauma?
• How can I overcome the shame, guilt and embarrassment that comes up for me around sex?
The method of work we will employ in this substantial part is a systematic immersion in the main themes that express in people’s sexual shadow lives. Through this work, we get to see that conscious, loving and playful engagement with what we have not allowed ourselves to fully see in our sexuality not only relieves us of much shame and guilt, but more importantly – it gives us access to aspects of our psyches that have been calling for our attention.
Greco-Roman mythology portrays an epic love-affair between Eros, the son of Aphrodite and the god of romantic love, and Psyche, the deification of the human soul (psyche literally means “soul, spirit, breath, life or animating force”). Out of their union is born Voluptas, the embodiment of physical pleasure, of bliss. This myth points for me to the truth that Eros will only be fully ignited into physical pleasure or bliss if Psyche is honored – if we listen to the messages that our psyches bring us in matters of sexuality and intimacy. Usually, this listening takes us to places that we haven’t explored or honored in our psyches, such as:
• suppressed anger or fear
• our relationship with power (power over, power under dynamics)
• unconscious ancestral dynamics at play
• shocks and traumas from infancy and childhood
Much, if not most of what a client will come to a facilitator with when seeking support for their sexual lives has to do with this sexual shadow material. It is our experience that the skill of a facilitator in navigating this complex terrain is the result of not just a theoretical understanding of the material, but a deeply lived exploration of each of the main themes that arise in sexual shadow work.
YOU CAN VIEW THE FULL DETAILS OF THIS PART HERE: SEXUAL SHADOW INTEGRATION WORK
PART 3: SEX, RELATIONSHIP, INTIMACY – THE THEORY AND PRACTICE OF CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY
NEXT INTAKE TBC
Having immersed ourselves in the exploration of what is in the shadow domains of our sexual energy, we are now ready to explore our relational dynamics and the real of sex: sexuality that is the real-time response to what is here now, rather than to an association that is triggered in the cellular memory.
In this part, you will learn:
- how neurochemistry affects your sexual response and how you can use this knowledge to support real sex
- basic principles for working with some of the key dynamics that arise between couples in sexual relationship
- some maps for understanding and working with relational patterns that block sexual flow between lovers
- powerful Tantric practices for activating sexual energy as vital life force/Kundalini in your body
- practices that activate the liquid body, or the sensual flow of the sexual being and practices that support you in directing sexual energy through the subtle body
PART 4: SHAKTI SHIVA FACILITATORS TRAINING
ESTIMATED TO START APRIL 2022
During this part we will focus exclusively on the principles and practice of coaching and depth facilitation. How to work with individuals and groups to support them in totality to bring their true and authentic selves to the meeting of transformation. We will explore the theory and principles of working with depth facilitation and understand the dynamics of a group using the principles of systemic constellations and process work.
In this part you will:
- Explore the Art of Listening - a skill that requires the finest tuning into the subtle and unseen realms.
- How to develop your communication skills with a particular emphasis on the ability to listen and use appropriate verbal skills.
- Learn techniques for managing your own psychological responses to facilitation situations.
- Develop your capacity to do your "inner work" so as to minimize projections from the group and tools to manage these with greater awareness.
WHAT PAST PARTICIPANTS ARE SAYING
"The Totality Therapy training I undertook with Shakti Malan opened me to the wisdom of my body and the beauty of my sexuality, while stretching my spiritual horizons. It is simply the most complete training available today to any sincere seeker... All I learned and experienced from it continues to serve me today, it is that powerful!"
Kalyani Ma Mukti
Mentor and Totality Therapy Practitioner, Yorkshire
"My immersion in this training opened immeasurable wisdom and clarity, both personally and professionally. This training is groundbreaking, a full blooded exploration of the agony and ecstasy of this multi-dimensional life! Shakti lovingly leads the way in this training for a new humanity. Take the opportunity to say yes and step into what's next for your evolution"
Therapist, Guide and Supervisor, London
“This process of learning to recognize and lovingly honor my own shadow material has created an unwavering foundation from which to hold others. It’s like running a fine toothed comb through your spirit and teasing every lurking withhold to the surface, creating profound space for love and clarity. Be prepared to start relishing all experience, even, or maybe even especially, those of an uncomfortable ego. From the first moment I sat in front of Shakti I knew there was no place to hide and I will be forever grateful for that gift.”
Intimacy Guide, Bay Area California
“A pioneer in the field of Human consciousness and awakening – Shakti marries her deep knowledge of Anthropology and Human Sexuality towards insights and teachings into the human condition which are forward thinking, innovative and inspiring. Shakti’s teachings have allowed me to come home to a place I always knew existed but lacked the capacity to reach on my own. A Re–Pairing on the deepest level. The teachings and subtle body work practices have set in motion the expanding of a felt sense reality for me – towards a rich and tapestried life of intimacy and love making that I could not have imagined before.”
Totality Therapy Practitioner & Dentist, Cape Town
VIDEOS ON TOTALITY THERAPY
Shakti Malan, the original creator and facilitator of this training, has two very informative longer videos available on the Totality Therapy training – one from 2011, and one from 2017:
HOW TO PARTICIPATE
This course is offered over 4 parts which can be registered each separately or alternatively there is a discounted once-off payment to complete the entire program. Please enquire via email to firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Do I need a partner to do this work?
No, this course is designed to be a personal journey, tapping into your own personal desires, fantasies and inner discoveries. For those who are in partnerships you may find that this will bring a greater dimension to your relating and intimacy with one another.
I can't attend the coaching sessions live - what now?
Not a problem – sessions are recorded and will be available within 24 hours so you can download and listen to them at your own convenience.
What about confidentiality?
Your journey will remain confidential. If you wish to share on the course website or private Facebook group, there are confidentiality agreements in place there. Nevertheless, please only share to the level you are comfortable to share.
What if I need more support?
If you find you require additional support aside from the group coaching sessions provided with this course, then you are welcome to approach any of the facilitators and book private sessions. These sessions are booked and paid separately and negotiated between you and the facilitator in their private capacity.
Do I have to finish the course in a certain time period?
No. Because you are able to download all the materials, you can work through them at your own pace. You will have access to the community website for one full year so that you can continue to interact and learn with the course participants even after you have completed your sessions.
Does the course require specific knowledge or experience?
No. In fact, sometimes the less you know, the better it is – this opens you to beginner’s mind and to meeting the material in a fresh way.
Do you provide refunds?
Withdrawal from the course is only possible during the first month of Module 1. Should you decide to withdraw, your future payments will be cancelled however no refunds will be provided. After 31 July 2020, de-registration is no longer permitted. If you find yourself unable to keep up with the course then no problem: You will have access to the course for one full year and can also retake the course when it is offered in the future at 50% of the course fee. All materials are also downloadable for you to work through at your own pace.
IT'S MORE THAN A COURSE... IT'S A COMMUNITY
We know there will definitely be questions and challenges arising all along the way, so to get the most out of this course, you need not only training, but ongoing support and a deep connection with others on the same path. A powerful learning community for your growth.
When you register for Sexual Shadow Work Course you’ll become part of an inspired, vibrant global learning community of individuals just like you who are seeking to connect with like-minded men and women. You’ll be engaging with the materials provided, and also with your fellow students from around the world through a private community website created exclusively for the participants in this course.