Totality Therapy

Transforming the Lead of Guilt and Shame to Gold

There was a time in my youth where my innocence was taken from me and I was left with much guilt and shame.   Guilt and shame, although they have their place in healthy doses in the cacophony of our emotional lives… can have a tendency to be overdone and distorted.   When overdone and…

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Being Counterintuitive

To ancient astrologers, the planets represented the will of the gods and their direct influence upon human affairs. To modern astrologers, the planets represent basic drives or urges in the unconscious.   In mythology, Mercury was the messenger of the gods. The one deity who could travel with messages between the upper and lower realms.…

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Identifying a divided will…

Finding my path to true love was not easy! In fact, before I could manifest the conscious reality I wanted, I needed to first acquaint myself with what was really going on in my unconscious.   It is said that our unconscious is running 90% of our actions and creations, leaving our conscious mind controlling…

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Finding True Love…

“Deep down, we all wanted to Truly Love each other but we had been under a spell for so long that we just could not remember how, so instead we hated and blamed ourselves and others. This was a terrible situation since only True Love could break the ancient spell, but who could travel beyond…

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Shooting the arrow…

Responding to a query received about the upcoming course, Sexual Shadow Integration: A 9-month online deep dive into your sexual unconscious, I reflected on the observation (at least in my experience) of how often “women’s work” and other spiritual awakening type programs are characterized by a general avoidance of the “highly sexualized” aspects of our…

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Dancing with the Dead…

In my post last week, “from Tarot to Tantra and back again”, I mentioned the tendency that those aspects of ourselves which have been relegated to the deep underworld of our unconscious have of finding their way to the surface and wreaking havoc with our consciously constructed lives…until we stop and consciously embrace and face…

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From Tantra to Tarot and back again…

Recently I have taken a foray into the discovery and learning of Tarot…   Tarot was always something in the field of my awareness that held an enormous attraction, but was not something that I felt confident to explore, or learn. Something I told myself that I was not skilled or intuitive enough to do…let…

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How a Protestant Virgin became a Tantric Guide

How a Protestant Virgin became a Tantric Guide   As a high school student, I was told after aptitude tests that the best career for me would be bureaucrat or office worker – “anything that feels safe and predictable”, the career guidance teacher said. Fast forward 30 years, and I’m a guide to many in…

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Healing Sexual Wounding Through Lovemaking

A remarkably large number of men and women on the planet have experienced some form of sexual abuse or wounding which continues to shape the texture of their sexual lives for most of their adulthood.

The surprising news that I want to offer here today is that the poison can also be the medicine. One of the most potent ways to heal sexual wounds is to turn towards sexual intimacy – not away from it – and to come into right relationship with it. The ‘how to’ I offer here is based on the excerpt below from an interview I did with my teacher Aisha Salem. I will give my summary understanding first, and then encourage you to read her full exposition below.

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