Totality Therapy

Shooting the arrow…

Responding to a query received about the upcoming course, Sexual Shadow Integration: A 9-month online deep dive into your sexual unconscious, I reflected on the observation (at least in my experience) of how often “women’s work” and other spiritual awakening type programs are characterized by a general avoidance of the “highly sexualized” aspects of our…

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Dancing with the Dead…

In my post last week, “from Tarot to Tantra and back again”, I mentioned the tendency that those aspects of ourselves which have been relegated to the deep underworld of our unconscious have of finding their way to the surface and wreaking havoc with our consciously constructed lives…until we stop and consciously embrace and face…

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From Tantra to Tarot and back again…

Recently I have taken a foray into the discovery and learning of Tarot…   Tarot was always something in the field of my awareness that held an enormous attraction, but was not something that I felt confident to explore, or learn. Something I told myself that I was not skilled or intuitive enough to do…let…

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How a Protestant Virgin became a Tantric Guide

How a Protestant Virgin became a Tantric Guide   As a high school student, I was told after aptitude tests that the best career for me would be bureaucrat or office worker – “anything that feels safe and predictable”, the career guidance teacher said. Fast forward 30 years, and I’m a guide to many in…

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Healing Sexual Wounding Through Lovemaking

A remarkably large number of men and women on the planet have experienced some form of sexual abuse or wounding which continues to shape the texture of their sexual lives for most of their adulthood.

The surprising news that I want to offer here today is that the poison can also be the medicine. One of the most potent ways to heal sexual wounds is to turn towards sexual intimacy – not away from it – and to come into right relationship with it. The ‘how to’ I offer here is based on the excerpt below from an interview I did with my teacher Aisha Salem. I will give my summary understanding first, and then encourage you to read her full exposition below.

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Let's Go Subtle with Sex

Ok, so we know that sex as we do it in our culture is not quite it. Perhaps you and I are some of the lucky ones who have gone beyond the culture and learnt a few techniques to improve our sex lives. But even our increased sexual gymnastics does not leave us fulfilled. We might even have gotten some Tantra lessons and learnt to stare into each other’s eyes for uncomfortably long periods of time. And yes, that’s kinda sweet – but yet nothing has fundamentally changed yet.

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Soulmate Within

In our collective psyches the dream of finding the Soulmate moves strongly – that ‘other’ who will meet and fulfill me completely. There is a real soulmate for each one of us. But that person is inside.

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Introducing the Sexual Unconscious

Unconsciousness is the semi dream-state that most people on this planet live in. The unconscious is a realm in our awareness that gets shaped by fears and desires that we have suppressed or avoided feeling fully and deeply.

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Releasing Sexual Trauma

I keep finding it remarkable how many people, and especially women, have had some traumatic experience around their sexuality. Typically such experiences leave the deepest imprint when they happened in childhood…

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